Cash gifts?

tophexie · June 2012

My fiance and I have been thinking about not doing a registry since we do have things most couples need. Is it in bad taste to ask for no box gifts?

Summer2011Bride · June 2012

You shouldn't be asking for any gifts period. I'm sure you could find some things you'd like to update or some extra items you don't have for a small registry. You don't HAVE to register, but you also can't ask for cash or other gifts instead. At least with registering, those guests who want to give a physical gift know what you want/like instead of guessing and possibly getting you something you hate and can't return.

jagore08 · June 2012

If you don't make a registry you're running the chance of getting multiple things you don't need or want. Some people really just do not like giving cash or gift cards. Make a small registry of upgrades and extras like towels, sheets, and small kitchen items. People know that most couples would prefer cash to start out their married lives together but give the option to the guests that don't like to give the cash gift.

Simply Fated · June 2012

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I have been thinking about not doing a registry since <strong>we do have things most couples need</strong>. Is it in bad taste to ask for no box gifts?
Posted by tophexie[/QUOTE]
Register for what you still do need and that's it. Well, i fyou want some small upgrades, go for it. It just sounds strange when, in the same breath you say, "We don't need things.... but we want cash." If you don't need things, what do you need the cash for? Know what I mean?
Of course cash comes in handy, but it's not something you should be asking around for. People know you need cash. Everyone needs cash. There is no reason to register for it.

Avion22 · June 2012

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AdeleDazeem · June 2012

I swear to god, it's like Groundhog Day in here.

Asking for cash is rude. Do parents not teach this anymore? My mother would've had a stroke if I even whispered this idea outloud.

hoffse · June 2012

Yes this is rude. And like PP said, it's been called rude in every post ever made about it.

I don't care if you want cash. I won't give you cash. So you can risk getting a generic vase or platter from me, or you can register. Up to you.

MNVegas · June 2012

You can not tell your guests not to get you boxed gifts and you can not ask your guests for cash gifts. Doing either of those are quite rude. There are people who do not like to give cash gifts, so set up a small registry for those who want to give a boxed gift otherwise you will get some random items. Other guests will give cash on their own without being asked.

aimers1525 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I swear to god, it's like Groundhog Day in here. Asking for cash is rude. Do parents not teach this anymore? My mother would've had a stroke if I even whispered this idea outloud.
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

Oh Joyyyyyyyyyyy :) lol

GoodLuckBear14 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I swear to god, it's like Groundhog Day in here. Asking for cash is rude. <strong>Do parents not teach this anymore? My mother would've had a stroke if I even whispered this idea outloud.
</strong>Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]

You are now officially a mean old "out of touch" woman. I'll make room for you on teh bench here.

AdeleDazeem · June 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Cash gifts? : You are now officially a mean old "out of touch" woman. I'll make room for you on teh bench here.
Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

Sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeet!!

danilinsday · June 2012

Its rude not give your guests options. You should create a registry with items varied in price for those who don't want to give you cash. That being said most people will give you cash anyway knowing a new couple can most likely use it. There are a ton of creative registries out there, you don't have to register for china and towels.

aragx6 · June 2012

Create a small registry and people will get the idea that you'd prefer cash. You must expect to receive some gifts however, and you should respond graciously with a thank you note.

Please be sure to decline any showers. Those are for physical gifts only. Watching a bride open envelope after envelope would make me want to gouge my eyes out.

brookethebride1 · June 2012

Emily Post says:

Explore alternative registries.

You're not limited to just registering for "stuff." You can also register for a honeymoon or other trip

thmpper · June 2012

No, it isn't rude. It saves your guests the hassle of having to go shopping. Have a wishing well. We are not living in the 50's anymore here, people. If they insist on bringing a box gift instead, thank them and return it. I know I don't want yet another box of dishes. Giving cash or a prepaid Visa or similar gives the couple the option of getting exactly what they want when they want it.

talaaam · July 2012

I don't think it is rude at all. But I think it also is a cultural thing. I am Chinese, and it's actually very customary ito give money in the chinese culture. Almost 99% of gifts given to a couple are in monetary form... in a red envelope. Many Chinese people believe in investing in the future. And their monetary gift usually comes with them wishing you a long an happy marriage and to invest this money into you future.

I have also been debating on whether or not to setup a registry. Similar to you, we have almost everything we need. I'm not really sure if setting up a registry to upgrade items is what I really want to do. I would prefer to save to money to hopefully buy a house in the future. Like brookethebride1, setting up a honeymoon fund or that type of registry might be a great idea. i have also considered this. This way its not an actual item, they are helping to pay for the celebration getaway!

windcherry · August 2012

LIKE LIKE - talaaam!!

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Emily Post says:

Explore alternative registries.

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