We are three months away from the wedding. No one has offered to throw me a wedding shower or bachelorette party. I know I can't plan my own, but is there a way to politely ask someone to throw me a shower or bachelorette party? I don't want to be passive aggressive or annoying. If I don't have a shower or bachelorette party, I won't throw a fit. But I would kind of like one. I am the first in my circle of friends to get married, and many of my friends don't know a lot about weddings. For example, I recently invited my BMs to a little get together (just to hang out as friends) and one of my BMs asked if it was my bachelorette party. I told her very nicely that no, it was not my bachelorette party. I cannot throw myself a bachelorette party. She said, "really?" and then asked how to reach my MOH. Any suggestions? Thank you so much for your help!