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AlexaNPAlexaNP member
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Just wondering if anyone had any suggestions I could discuss with my fiancee.

Originally his youngest brother (age 6) and my cousin (age 7) were going to be the ring bearer and flower girl.  But FI decided that he doesn't want his brother to be called a "ring bearer" because it is a pointless job to carry up 2 fake rings on a pillow when the best man will actually have the wedding rings.  So, the "ring bearer" is just escorting the "flower girl" up the aisle (who will not be throwing petals.  She will just be carrying a small bouquet).

My question is, since they're not really doing what the titles "ring bearer" and "flower girl" imply, could we just call them a bridesmaid and groomsman?  Or is that strange since they are so young.

As a follow up, if we call them a bridesmaid and groomsmen, should my cousin get a dress that matches the bridesmaids' colors instead of a white flower girl dress?

Just to note, we asked the kids, and they don't really have an opinion.  They are just excited to be included!
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    GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    You can still call them the ring bearer and flower girl. 
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    itzMSitzMS member
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    Agreed with GLB. If you're set on having young kids in the wedding, those are the proper titles.
    The little boy can carry something resembling a ring box or pillow, or not...it doesn't really matter.
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    AlexaNPAlexaNP member
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    Thanks.  I'll do that.  I think I was just overthinking it because FI was making such a big deal about it.
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    hjay07hjay07 member
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    You could always call them "Junior" bridesmaid and groomsman if your FI would prefer that. I don't really get the point of those titles, but people in my area seem to do that a lot to include younger siblings/children/etc.

     

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    StephJean83StephJean83 member
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    I've seen on Pinterest instead of the "ring bearer" carrying a pillow with fake rings or an empty pillow, he could carry a sign like "Here comes the bride". I've seen it with the groom's name like, "Mike here comes your wife" or to be funny, "Last Chance to Run Mike".
    FWIW, when my sister got married the ring bearer hated the idea of carrying up the pillow with fake rings on it and the BM tied the ring on the pillow about 5 mins before the groom and BM and GMs went to the alter. He tied them so tight, the groom had to cut them off the pillow!
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    eelsbury08eelsbury08
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    call them the flower girl and ring berear. thats their proper titles
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    getaclue44getaclue44 member
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    We are giving our RB a silver box with the actual rings in it...he will then pass it off to the BM. He wanted no part of a pillow. The box is engraved with the nicknames our RB has for us. He loves it. I would keep the original titles. I just think they are too young for anything else.
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    AlexaNPAlexaNP member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_young-wp-members?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:5fe8c6c4-cf94-4339-9a8b-0edcb4ccb12cPost:c0efd8fe-92db-4e12-bb12-d83209933df2">Re: Young WP Members</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why are they "too young"? How mature does one have to be to walk down an aisle and smile? My Maid of Honor was twelve. She wasn't overwhelmed or scared.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    Thanks for the example.  I think I'll just list them as "bridesmaid" and "groomsman," because I don't really care either way, and my fiancee is really for going that route.  In his eyes, for some reason or other, he doesn't see a ring bearer as being as important, and he wants to make sure his brother (also his godson) has an "important" role.  I think that will make him happy.
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