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Calling all brides...***please help***

jennay781jennay781
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Hi ladies (and gentlemen...) - I normally would never post something like this, but my fiance and I are REALLY hoping to win this DJ package from a local company.  If we get the most votes we win a DJ, lighting, photobooth, and some other things (a $5,000 package). It takes less than a minute to vote. You can just connect with Facebook or have a code sent to your email/phone. I know you don't have much incentive to vote for strangers, but just know how overjoyed we would be to win...I will come back and update you in a couple of days if we do!  I would also be more than happy to return the favor if you are part of any similar contests in your home town.  :)

http://encoredreamwedding.com/vote.php?id=653

Thank you so much!
Jen
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Sure!  I don't know you in real life or from here on TK (obviously since your first post is to solicit votes rather than to get to know anyone), so why wouldn't I be delighted to help you pay for your wedding? 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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  • nraynovichnraynovich member
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    I know how wedding expenses can be.  I don't see the harm in helping another bride.  Bad form Addie :( 
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    lol!  Thanks nraynovich - glad you understand! :)  I don't see the harm in at least asking for help with some votes :)  I started planning my wedding a few weeks ago and haven't had a need yet to post on the boards.  I just figured if someone didn't want to help they wouldn't vote.  But then again planning a wedding can bring out some bridezilla in even the nicest people. I wish Addie's fiance all the luck with that!
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    These posts aren't even allowed on The Knot.  It'll be removed shortly.

    And, many people who do read it will vote for other people.

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  • TKzillaTKzilla member
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    Nope, voting for anyone but you. Insulting the regs on the board isn't going to fly. Especially if you actually READ SOME POSTS and realized how nice Addie is to new brides (and all brides, for that matter) even when they post dumb sh!t like this.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I went through the bios and voted for a couple I felt really deserved it. Thank you, OP, for the link. I can't say I helped you, but I helped someone and you should feel good about that because you provided the link.
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  • TKzillaTKzilla member
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    Also, your wedding is well over a year away. Maybe try saving up some money for a DJ instead of asking strangers (and then being rude to them) to help you win free crap.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_calling-all-bridesplease-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:29Discussion:96196448-2218-44cd-8dae-d016dc03e17dPost:e1dbe83f-3c94-4348-abbf-ba0998f56880">Re: Calling all brides...***please help***</a>:
    [QUOTE]lol!  Thanks nraynovich - glad you understand! :)  I don't see the harm in at least asking for help with some votes :)  I started planning my wedding a few weeks ago and haven't had a need yet to post on the boards.  I just figured if someone didn't want to help they wouldn't vote.  <strong>But then again planning a wedding can bring out some bridezilla in even the nicest people. I wish Addie's fiance all the luck with that!</strong>
    Posted by jennay781[/QUOTE]

    <div>My wedding was a year ago, so you're too late. </div>
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_calling-all-bridesplease-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:29Discussion:96196448-2218-44cd-8dae-d016dc03e17dPost:3dc3e5c7-935c-4655-991e-c2a16281930a">Re: Calling all brides...***please help***</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling all brides...***please help*** : I just thought you were such a bridezilla that you made your poor FI and friends dress up and take photos with you in your wedding dress for the fun of it.  
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    <div>Crap. You caught me. But come on, now. It's MY DAY, and I need to know how things are going to look!  I can't leave that ish to chance!!!!!</div>
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  • jcg98jcg98 member
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    Well, this is more action than this board has seen in months, LOL.

    Addie, I'm sorry you were the recipient of her venom.  I would have enjoyed banning her butt if she hadn't already been reported away.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    Thanks, JCG!
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    Wowww - I thought this board was a helpful place for brides, not a clique where "regulars" come and bash newbies.  That was an incorrect assumption that I made.  Asking for votes on a wedding-themed message board is very unlike walking up to strangers on the street and asking for votes.  I have asked a handful of friends and family, and i thought "hmm why not ask a message board full of people who have/are planning a wedding and know how tough expenses are? Seems pretty harmless." and nothing about my original post brought offense or harm to anyone. The fact that Addie is a regular on this board doesn't take away from how rude her comment was. I didn't see the photos that she was already married because my work computer doesn't allow much more than HTML but now I see...I still think I was correct that she is pretty snarky and high and mighty. That opinion hasn't changed. The sarcasm and passive-aggressive "venom" behind her comment to me was far worse than anything I said.
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_calling-all-bridesplease-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:29Discussion:96196448-2218-44cd-8dae-d016dc03e17dPost:b6b2982f-22f1-4921-a8b1-72d29db954d5">Re: Calling all brides...***please help***</a>:
    [QUOTE]Wowww - I thought this board was a helpful place for brides, not a clique where "regulars" come and bash newbies.  That was an incorrect assumption that I made.  Asking for votes on a wedding-themed message board is very unlike walking up to strangers on the street and asking for votes.  I have asked a handful of friends and family, and i thought "hmm why not ask a message board full of people who have/are planning a wedding and know how tough expenses are? Seems pretty harmless.".  The fact that Addie is a regular on this board doesn't take away from how rude her comment was. I didn't see the photos that she was already married because my work computer doesn't allow much more than HTML but now I see...I still think I was correct that she is pretty snarky and high and mighty for someone who spends so much time on message boards. That opinion hasn't changed. The sarcasm and passive-aggressive "venom" behind her comment to me was far worse than anything I said. You can have her back though since she's your message board friend.
    Posted by jennay781[/QUOTE]

    It takes a truely ugly soul to immediately attack someone's wedding and significant other when they mildly disagree with you.  Ugly and mean. We don't stand for that kind of highschool cruel-girl thing.  You're going to get banned in record time at this rate.
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling all brides...***please help*** : It takes a truely ugly soul to immediately attack someone's wedding and significant other when they mildly disagree with you.  Ugly and mean. We don't stand for that kind of highschool cruel-girl thing.  You're going to get banned in record time at this rate.
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    I guess it's all a matter of perspective. From my perspective, my very first post got replied to with ugliness and an immediate gang of mean girls to back her up. So...if that's what this board is all about, then ban away.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    And from my perspective, you were someone who didn't read the terms of service that you agreed to when you signed up, which includes the following: 

    No soliciting of any kind on the message boards or in the chat room -- it is neither allowed nor appreciated by the community. 

    Jennay, we do not "bash" newbies here. We do, however, get upset when people don't abide by the rules and make personal attacks on contributing members of the community. If you had bothered to read any threads here before jumping in to immediately ask for a favor, you would see that. 

    Every day, there are new posters who don't read the terms of service, and every day there are requests for "Help me win a cake!"  "Help us win this honeymoon!"  "Help us win free photography!"  And none of those posters ever bother to participate in the community. They are JUST here to solicit votes. Surely you can see where that would get tiresome. 
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    [QUOTE]And from my perspective, you were someone who didn't read the terms of service that you agreed to when you signed up, which includes the following:  No soliciting of any kind on the message boards or in the chat room -- it is neither allowed nor appreciated by the community.  Jennay, we do not "bash" newbies here. We do, however, get upset when people don't abide by the rules and make personal attacks on contributing members of the community. If you had bothered to read any threads here before jumping in to immediately ask for a favor, you would see that.  Every day, there are new posters who don't read the terms of service, and every day there are requests for "Help me win a cake!"  "Help us win this honeymoon!"  "Help us win free photography!"  And none of those posters ever bother to participate in the community. They are JUST here to solicit votes. Surely you can see where that would get tiresome. 
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]


    I have been on occasional message boards briefly before so I have seen this happen to others who have posted a repetitive question or request. I never felt it necessary to give them a hard time about it or belittle them by posting sarcastic remarks - sometimes people don't think they are harming anything, or maybe overlook the question or post that was previously done. In my case, asking for votes didn't seem like it was violating anything. In the moment I forgot that to a bunch of strangers, i wasn't a bride asking for help...I was just someone posting spam/solicitation. It could have been pointed out to me nicely, or just ignored until it was deleted by a moderator. The fact that you responded the way you did gave me no other impression than you were mean.

    I came to the board for help, I didn't get it...in fact I got the opposite (votes for other people). So thanks for that, to whoever was responsible.
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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    You broke the rules, said nasty things to people, never apologized for either, and we're the badguys? Wow... Just.... Wow
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    [QUOTE]You broke the rules, said nasty things to people, never apologized for either, and we're the badguys? Wow... Just.... Wow
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    Yes, you are...you're just too invested in the message boards to realize it.  You have all officially turned a new person off from participating any further in The Knot boards.  If anything, the moderators should check into THAT and not the "soliciting".  Actually I would love to go search out the poor girls who want votes for their free DJ, cake, dress, etc and up their votes a little before they are deleted/ganged up on. Have a good night!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_calling-all-bridesplease-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:29Discussion:96196448-2218-44cd-8dae-d016dc03e17dPost:240cd4f3-d292-4a23-817b-991d772725e7">Re:Calling all brides...please help</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Calling all brides...please help : Yes, you are...you're just too invested in the message boards to realize it.  You have all officially turned a new person off from participating any further in The Knot boards.  If anything, the moderators should check into THAT and not the "soliciting".  Actually I would love to go search out the poor girls who want votes for their free DJ, cake, dress, etc and up their votes a little before they are deleted/ganged up on. Have a good night!
    Posted by jennay781[/QUOTE]

    <div>Yeah, buh-bye.</div><div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_first-dance_calling-all-bridesplease-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:29Discussion:96196448-2218-44cd-8dae-d016dc03e17dPost:02682d6c-a28b-4bd8-9213-92bfe05c12e9">Re: Calling all brides...***please help***</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Calling all brides...***please help*** : I have been on occasional message boards briefly before so I have seen this happen to others who have posted a repetitive question or request. I never felt it necessary to give them a hard time about it or belittle them by posting sarcastic remarks - sometimes people don't think they are harming anything, or maybe overlook the question or post that was previously done. In my case, asking for votes didn't seem like it was violating anything. In the moment I forgot that to a bunch of strangers, i wasn't a bride asking for help...I was just someone posting spam/solicitation. It could have been pointed out to me nicely, or just ignored until it was deleted by a moderator. The fact that you responded the way you did gave me no other impression than you were mean. I came to the board for help, I didn't get it...in fact I got the opposite (votes for other people). So thanks for that, to whoever was responsible.
    Posted by jennay781[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>Someone who claims to have been on other message boars should have had the sense to check the rules before posting for the first time.

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  • PeledreamsofrainPeledreamsofrain member
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    Don't let the door hit you.... Good riddance.
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  • jcg98jcg98 member
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    Anyone want to lay odds on how fast Jennay goes to Wedding Bee to complain about the beeyotches on the Knot?
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    In Response to Re:Calling all brides...please help:[QUOTE]Anyone want to lay odds on how fast Jennay goes to Wedding Bee to complain about the beeyotches on the Knot? Posted by jcg98[/QUOTE]

    Haha, 20 bucks on a 'woe is me' post within 15 minutes.
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:Calling all brides...please help: Haha, 20 bucks on a 'woe is me' post within 15 minutes.
    Posted by Peledreamsofrain[/QUOTE]

    Nah I'm not a part of that board...but if they are more welcoming and helpful than this board I may as well check it out!  I didn't realize there was a rivalry between wedding boards. That's...interesting...and kinda strange.
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  • jennay781jennay781
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    Oh and do i get the 20 bucks, or someone else? I figure if i am soliciting votes i might as well try to get $20 too.
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