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Invitation wording and RSVP for 2 receptions

bethana81bethana81 member
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I need help with invitation wording and how to handle RSVP cards for 2 receptions.

We will be married and have the reception in one place.  Two weeks later we will have an additional reception across the country.  The second reception will be larger and more informal. 

Should I have 2 cards, outlining the details of both with 2 separate RSVP cards?  What would this look like?  Please let me know if you have found a website that outlines this.


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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    Why are you having two receptions? Is everyone invited to both events?


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  • bethana81bethana81 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invitation-wording-and-rsvp-for-2-receptions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:06d3e86b-a73b-4064-92a2-28b82a80ecfbPost:34151616-57e7-46bc-b7ee-44c76295aedb">Re: Invitation wording and RSVP for 2 receptions</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why are you having two receptions? Is everyone invited to both events?
    Posted by Summer2011Bride[/QUOTE]

    <div>I'm having the 2nd reception because much of my family across the country will not be able to attend.  I'm trying to make it easier financially and physically for my family members.  So yes, it is a second reception in that respect.  It's not just a "party."  Everyone is invited to both, but I don't expect a lot of the invitees to come to the first event.</div><div>
    </div><div>Hoping someone can actually help with the RSVP idea.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_invitation-wording-and-rsvp-for-2-receptions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:06d3e86b-a73b-4064-92a2-28b82a80ecfbPost:f86cd0c2-88ad-447e-a5bd-518057c72464">Re: Invitation wording and RSVP for 2 receptions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Invitation wording and RSVP for 2 receptions : I'm having the 2nd reception because much of my family across the country will not be able to attend.  I'm trying to make it easier financially and physically for my family members.  So yes, it is a second reception in that respect.  It's not just a "party."  Everyone is invited to both, but I don't expect a lot of the invitees to come to the first event. Hoping someone can actually help with the RSVP idea.
    Posted by bethana81[/QUOTE]

    The actual reception is what happens on your wedding day after the ceremony--its purpose is to thank the guests who attended your wedding. So like CmGr said, the second party you want to throw is a party but not a wedding reception. I would just send out completely separate invitations to the second party and not include them with the wedding invitations at all, since they are two separate events.


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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    Op - My FIL could not come to our wedding in Philadelphia for health reasons and asked to host a second reception in San Francisco.  My SIL handled everything, including sending separate invitations to the California reception - and no, not everyone who was there was invited to the wedding.  SIL had to change the room booking three times because people who were not even invited were RSVPing that they were coming (what can I say - huge Greek family).

    We only had about 30 people at the wedding and nearly 100 at the second reception.  The only reception things that we did was a cake cutting and  I wore my dress (flower iin my hair instead of a veil) which was more along the lines of an evening gown than poufy dress.  Our niece put together a four minute video of the wedding and reception following which was played.  SIL gave a toast.  We ate dinner and had an open bar. No dancing, no tosses, no DJ.
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  • bethana81bethana81 member
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    Ok- I am not here to debate what to call the social gathering I am having.  I'm trying to get a rational, logical response to my original question.  I am starting to regret having asked it.
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    IMO, just invite everyone to both affairs and let them decide.

    Good luck!
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  • LaurenM2013LaurenM2013
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    I am doing a Destination Wedding in Hawaii and having an At Home Reception to accomadate my gigantic family a few weeks after we return. I'm planning to make 2 seperate invitations, and send both to the people who are invited to both. I am also planning to wear my dress, have a band (though that was my mom's choice--personally I would prefer a DJ), and have a sheet cake instead of a wedding cake. It's going to be luau theme and I'm going to ask everyone who has one to wear a Hawaiian shirt. I also want to show a video of the wedding at the At Home Reception.  

    I think you should treat this invitation dilemma as if it were for a Destination Wedding (even if you're not travelling for the wedding itself). You should do whatever you want to do for the 2nd Reception. Make it as formal or as informal as you want! You can check out the Destination Wedding board and see what other people are doing for their invitations as well. It's your party. Do it the way you want to :)
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