Addressing invite to married couple with same last name

Katelyn89 · May 2012

I know the proper way to address the invite is:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith

but I am wondering if any of you did anything different or if it is acceptable to address it differently with the wifes first name as well.

I know it's probably not proper etiquette, but I really would like to include the women's name, not just the males.

I am sure this question has been asked many times, but I did a quick search and a google search and have read conflicting answers.

TIA.

cwaggoner07 · May 2012

All of my invites say 'John and Bridget Smith'. But we are also having a very casual wedding.

jmleejohnson · May 2012

I am addressing my invites...

Jack & Jill Hill

if it is just married couple with no kiddos

Jack Hill & Family

if it is a family (obviously) we are not necessarily having a FORMAL wedding persay, but it is not casual at all. I just think in this day and age it is rude to not include the female as well. But that is my opinion, it may not be proper etiquette.

HobokensFury · May 2012

If it's a formal invite the wife's name does not appear on it. Do not use and family on any invite. It's too open to interpretation.

MyNameIsNot · May 2012

We did Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Smith for most of ours.

It's not technically correct, but I know a number of my married friends hate being called "Mrs. John Smith." We decided we'd rather go with what they'd prefer than with what is technically correct.

doublenn · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_addressing-invite-to-married-couple-with-same-last-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:071f0f18-3d75-4854-9f56-49744015abe1Post:8ba2deeb-509c-4a9b-84a0-83cd76085166">Re: Addressing invite to married couple with same last name</a>:
[QUOTE]We did Mr. and Mrs. Jane and John Smith for most of ours. It's not technically correct, but I know a number of my married friends hate being called "Mrs. John Smith." We decided we'd rather go with what they'd prefer than with what is technically correct.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>So, I've seen this before, and it kind of annoys me that the Mr. and Mrs. and names are mismatched. Shouldn't it be "Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith"?</div>

unchatenfrance · May 2012

I did: "John and Jane Smith" for a married couple and "John and Jane Smith / TImmy and Suzie Smith" for a family. Our wedding is semi-formal and all the people we sent invitations to are friends and family we are on casual terms with, so I felt there was no need for hyper-formality.

ootmother2 · May 2012

A man's first name is never seperated from his last, ie Mr. John Smith, that is etiquette, not tradition.

The alternate forms of address may be chosen as youi wish.

MrsMeganL2012 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_addressing-invite-to-married-couple-with-same-last-name?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:071f0f18-3d75-4854-9f56-49744015abe1Post:1c74a8b8-bc1b-4f90-857d-030915e8ca8f">Re: Addressing invite to married couple with same last name</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Addressing invite to married couple with same last name : So, I've seen this before, and it kind of annoys me that the Mr. and Mrs. and names are mismatched. Shouldn't it be "Mr. and Mrs. John and Jane Smith"?
Posted by doublenn[/QUOTE]

Totally agree!

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