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Should I have my sister in my wedding if I'm her MOH?

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Here's the deal... I already asked my best friend to be my MOH for my wedding since I was MOH for her in her wedding. Really all I would like is to have one bridesmaid for my wedding and not have a large wedding party. My sister recently asked me to be MOH for her wedding, so I feel pressure that I should have her be in my wedding partysince she is my sister and I'm in her wedding. My sister and I aren't very close so I feel like if I have my sister in my wedding party, I would want to have another one of my friends just because I'm closer to her than my sister. If I started adding more people based on how they would feel, I would have a total of three bridesmaids and with that comes more personalities and more stress. Should I have my sister in my wedding or not if I'm her MOH?
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  • mcda04mcda04 member
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    You don’t have to have your sisters in your BP just because they’re related to you.

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited November 2012
    In addition to what the PPs have said, you're actually not limited to one MOH.  If you want to add your sister to your wedding party in any capacity, including an MOH, feel free!

    That said, you're also not required to have a sister as an attendant.  Do whatever works best for you.
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  • SJM7538SJM7538 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_should-i-have-my-sister-in-my-wedding-if-im-her-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:68ca0170-685f-4d7f-bc61-41343c5a17afPost:201782ef-1930-45cc-94d5-0705ec14bcab">Re: Should I have my sister in my wedding if I'm her MOH?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I agree that wedding party honors aren't tit for tat, but I think your sister will hurt if she considers the two of you close enough to have you MOH, and gets left out of your WP entirely.</strong> Just because you add your sister doesn't mean you have to add more friends. That being said, if you've already asked the whole WP, asking your sister late in the game might look a bit off.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]


    This exactly. I don't know what your family dynamics are like but I know I would be hurt I felt my sister was close enough to be in my wedding but she didnt feel the same. One day isn't worth hurt feelings or potentially effecting any future relationship you could have with your sister.
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  • SJM7538SJM7538 member
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    Just want to add to that three bridesmaids really isn't a lot. And as for more personality and more stress....that really shouldn't be an issue. If you girls dont get along for whatever reason thats not really your issue. I assume  they're all adults and can get along. All they have to do is buy a dress and show up to your wedding on time and sober. If they get into any arguements over anything (say if they decide to throw you a shower and can't agree on stuff) then just stay out of it.
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  • NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_should-i-have-my-sister-in-my-wedding-if-im-her-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:68ca0170-685f-4d7f-bc61-41343c5a17afPost:201782ef-1930-45cc-94d5-0705ec14bcab">Re: Should I have my sister in my wedding if I'm her MOH?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I agree that wedding party honors aren't tit for tat, but I think your sister will hurt if she considers the two of you close enough to have you MOH, and gets left out of your WP entirely. Just because you add your sister doesn't mean you have to add more friends. That being said, if you've already asked the whole WP, asking your sister late in the game might look a bit off.
    Posted by Liatris2010[/QUOTE]



    Agree that you should have your sister in your WP. Think of her feelings. Think of your parents' feelings. Think of the long term. Think of the pictures.
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_should-i-have-my-sister-in-my-wedding-if-im-her-moh?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:68ca0170-685f-4d7f-bc61-41343c5a17afPost:31bdead6-9bcb-474b-8642-fcf26790e3ad">Re: Should I have my sister in my wedding if I'm her MOH?</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>Weddings aren't a tit for tat</strong>. You don't have to ask someone to be in your WP because you were in theirs, or have them as MOH because you were theirs, etc. You may wish to consider how your sister might feel about this, though.
    Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

    Correct. I was in a BP of a girl who I didn't really even like tehn. I'm not sure why I said yes exactly but I did. After her wedding, I cut ties with her. She was the biggest birdezilla and her friendship was just not worth it to me anymore. I was a BM in hers and she's not even invited to my wedding. Weddings are not tit for tat and unfortunately friendships can change.
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