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Just what every girl wants... more BM drama!

adrielegorburuadrielegorburu
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So here I am 19 days away from my wedding chasing down one of my BMs who hasnt been in contact with me for over a month except to text me that she will call me later and never does.  I sent her a very serious email today asking her *most importantly whether or not she has her dress yet and if she plans on helping out or being involved or even bothering to call me before the wedding!!! I cant believe I had to do that but I did.  Then she sent me a text asking me for my email address (weird since I emailed her and shes my cousin/BFF and I've had the same email address for 10 years!) and that wa hours ago and I havent heard back.  I'm not freaking out but I'm more than a little PO'd!! I think I'm just going to buy a BM dress in "our" size (it will be a bit big for her but who cares) when I go in tomorrow for my fitting JUST in case she didnt get a dress!!! ugggghhhhh~

Anyways - venting... thanks ladies!
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Re: Just what every girl wants... more BM drama!

  • ShuutnstarShuutnstar
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry hun! That sux!! I hope she grows a pair and calls you! (And has her dress)

    What about going to her mom or family and say you are worried because she has been acting weird. Maybe they will know if something is going on in her life that is causing her to be a flake...
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  • TheJenniusTheJennius
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    edited December 2011
    Adri, rough stuff, doll. Honestly, at this point, I wouldn't bother with chasing her around. You are 2 weeks away and a bride always needs the cushion money at the last moments, don't burden yourself with her negligence.

    You've every right to vent. I'd understand if you were 4 or even 3 months away. But we're talking 2 weeks away from the big day, responsability has to kick at some point and I think she might've missed her mark.

    Good luck, hunny, I hope all of this gets solved!
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  • marnie80marnie80
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    edited December 2011
    wow, this is crazy but I wouldn't buy her a dress, you could use that money on something else for YOU. Wait a day or two and write her back, call her mom like Shuunstar said. If she doesn't show up then have one of the girls walk again or something like that. If she doesn't care DON'T have her at your wedding period!
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  • adrielegorburuadrielegorburu
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys - knotties always make me feel better when my day goes the caca way!  This BM is notoriously a flake, but always been my BFF, stopping by my house a few times a week, shopping buddy, etc.  It's not out of the norm for her to disappear for a while every now and then but I hate feeling like a bridezilla yelling "me me me" all the time.  I feel like she should at least be as involved with me as she was before - but I expected way way more from her than anyother person which is why I'm bummed.  I think I still might buy the "extra" BM dress anyways (I really like it so that's why I figure I'll get it in my size that she could wear if she has to) if she actually buys (or has bought *crosses fingers*) her dress already I can wear the xtra one on my HM or after.  I dont want to stress about it anymore!  Dalie gave me this advice and I plan on taking it

    let go of things - its time to focus on the good stuff!  (paraphrasing of course!)
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  • bluebookbluebook member
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    edited December 2011
    If you like the dress and are going to keep it anyway and it would make you feel better Adri, then I'd get it. It makes you less stressed b/c you can still have your programs with your BM in there (if you're doing them) and don't have to change anything about your line-up or whatnot. It's very rude of your BM though!  But hopefully she's come out of the woodwork very apologetic soon!
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  • adrielegorburuadrielegorburu
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    edited December 2011
    got an email - not a very nice one.  claims shes getting her dress this weekend.  Now I'm officially mad because she hasnt even gotten her dress!!!!! I'm going to buy it tomorrow so I dont have to deal with it~ pooey on her!  Fell free to wish diarreha upon her.....
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  • bears4lifebears4life member
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    edited December 2011
    ugh I'm sooooooooo sorry lovey. That's so wrong and inconsiderate of her. You shouldn't have to be stressed about this, but if you really love the dress and you want one for yourself then get it!
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  • EvelynandMannyEvelynandManny
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    edited December 2011
    aww that sucks...I can totally understand why you would want to buy her an extra dres..im sure it will nake you feel better...just hope she shows up the day of the wedding! :( Not trying to scare you but Id be worried ...talk to her like in person if you can soon :) GL!!!
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  • Italian PrincezItalian Princez member
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    edited December 2011
    Ohhh... I'm so sorry you are going through this hunni. Sometimes, people show their true colors atthe wrong time!
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