We had a disappointing RSVP yesterday. FFIL's GF.
They don't live together. They have an interesting relationship. She doesn't really like being out with large groups. They have been together 10+ years and most of his family have not met her.
So we sent her her own invitation and FFIL was certain she was coming. So sure that Thursday he told FI that yes she was coming. Then her RSVP arrives yesterday and she RSVPed no. She also called FFIL to tell him. I guess she was full of excuses "she doesnt like crowds" "he'll be too busy to be with her" and on and on
I purposely set up their table to not include most of FFIL's family... they can be overwhelming. I made sure to make it a table of people I thought she would be comfortable with. Not heavy drinkers, not big into swearing etc etc (including my Great Aunt and Uncle who are very 'proper').
Anyways the real kicker though is this... apparently a few years ago she had FFIL drive her to a coworker's daughter's wedding. By drive I mean take her there and pick her up... she did not bring him with her.
So she will go to a wedding for someone she barely knows, but not for her BF's son.
I was not really that surprised she said no. Even though I ordered her a coursage, I knew there was a chance I was cancelling that order. FI & FFIL were. She is a wondeful woman, but in 6 years FI and I have only seen her a handful of times.
I just feel bad for FFIL. He is very angry with her and I believe thinking of calling things off.