So my boyfriend and I have been together for 10 years. He is turning 30 this September and I am 26. We've lived together for the past 3 years. I have been ready to be married for a while now and it is something that we talk about a lot. As well as the "When we have kids" scenarios etc. I know it is something that he does want, he just hasn't bought me a ring yet. His whole family and my whole family keep asking when we are going to get married and even his married friend has been asking him whats up.
Recently I said to him "Let's just get married next year when [his friend] get's back from deployment" and at first he kept saying "We'll see next year" so I let it go for a little while and then I brought it up again and said "If we are going to get married next year we have to start planning" and I said I wanted to have a Christmas wedding and he said no Christmas isn't a good time, then I said August he said no too hot, then I said "How about July 23rd 2011" and he said "That seems like as good a date as any" and then I started asking him what colors he would want to use he said "anything but orange"
So to me it sounds like he is on board with this but to get to the point of my story is it weird for us to basically become "engaged" like this and not with a ring and a proposal and all that? I am planning to wait until we tell my grandfather we picked a date until I make it public because after that I would consider it official.