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Bachelorette party vent

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My MOH(fiances sister) is planning my bachelorette party and wants to rent a limo and go bar hopping. but one of my bridesmaids is 18. I wanted to go to clubs because they are 18+, unlike bars where she won't even be able to get in. But my MOH insists on only bar hopping because she doesn't like clubs. I prefer clubs. Also she said that you usually only invite the bridesmaids to the bachelorette party. I didn't think that was the case. But i don't think that's fair to me considering i couldn't ask everyone i wanted to be a bridesmaid. I only have 5. Including the MOH. not to mention  she wants to invite a friend of hers. who is practically family to them and will becoming to the wedding but i don't know her that well. Advice?
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Re: Bachelorette party vent

  • Ravenclaw79Ravenclaw79 member
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    It sounds like this party is all about what SHE wants, not about what YOU want, and that's just not right.  If she won't give you a party that you will like (which includes inviting the people you want to include and going where you want to go), I'd politely turn down the party (and maybe let the BMs know you've done that, in case one or all of them would like to throw you one you'd like better).
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  • willywally5willywally5 member
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    edited June 2012
    She definitely doesn't seem to be throwing this party for YOU, but for herself.  Does she just not like the 18-year-old BM? Is she solely footing the bill and thus feels she can call all the shots? Or is she just a self-centered hag???

    BP's are not 'usually just for the bridesmaids' ... sounds like she is just a control freak.Is she always like this? 

    I'd decline the party, like PP suggested and let other girls know you've done so. 

    Think MOH will stomp her egocentric little feet and not come to the BP if one of the other girls calls the shots? I know where my money is on that bet!
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  • SB1512SB1512 member
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    If the plans are not what you want, decline the party.  Another BM may offer to throw something more your style, but not necessarily.  A bachelorette party is not a requirement and many brides go without one.
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