Hi everyone I am new here to this board, and I just thought you all might be a good group to pose this question to:
My FI and are getting married October 9th and we have a 6wk old son together as background, we have known each other 10yrs as friends and we've been together as a couple for about 2 yrs.
Before we became a couple he was in a relationship (never married) which produced a daughter who is 3.5yrs old. SD's mother is a trainwreck to put it nicely who did nothing but try to cause problems when we initially started dating, even tho she was the one who broke it off with FI. She is basically a miserable spiteful person, who also refuses to work enough to support herself and SD and relies on welfare and CS as her main sources of income. There is certainly no love lost between her and DH, but my issue is that his family, my IL's to be CONSTANTLY bring her up to complain about her latest antics that they find out from BM's mother. They also compare my son to SD a lot, I will say something he does and they will instantly say when SD did so and so, etc.
I have told them and have had FI say something to them about doing this, but they continue to bring her up, and I could seriously care less and don't want to hear about her (unless they are telling me she has moved to Abu Dahbi lol). It just aggravates me and the comparison thing they do with my son gets on my nerves too, bc I am a first time mother and when they automatically start talking about how SD did the same thing it almost comes off like they aren't impressed with my son bc they already saw SD do it first. Like they can't let me just brag about my little guy?
Any advice on how to let it roll off my back a little more? Right now I'm ready to slap them if I hear BM's name one more time.
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