I know this is terribly rude, but my idea to have an close family friend's daughter as a junior bridesmaid will throw off my wedding party ratio of men and women. I already have one too many bridesmaids and two flower girls to the one ring bearer. I never officially talked to the girl (who is 17, which I later discovered is too old to be a "junior bridesmaid" any way), but her dad sent me an email asking if she's in the wedding. I said I was "thinking of having her be a junior bridesmaid." I would hate to disappoint her and her family after saying that. I thought about asking the girl to light candles during the ceremony, but it's an outdoor June wedding and it will be hot outside ... so candles are probably a no-go. Please help me!!! Can I uninvite her to be in the wedding????