My dad is one of my favorite people on this planet. He and I are so much alike and that has only gotten clearer as the years have gone on. We have the same sense of humor and lots of inside jokes. However, my dad is a very stoic, and non-emotional. He also does NOT dance, or hug, or touch, anyone. So the F/D dance has been the thing I have been stressing about the most about this whole wedding (even more than BM dresses!). It will seem so awkward and forced. Also, I don't wanna cry... its probably going to be a touching moment but I would rather have fun than sob in front of everyone.
So I was thinking of replacing it with a "moment" where my dad and I have a toast with each of us drinking his favorite beer. Its an ongoing joke in our family because he only drinks ONE kind of beer and the caterer even agreed to start ordering it just for him. I was gonna have one of our favorite sarcastic country songs played and just have pics taken of us having a beer together. I feel like its very us and would be less embarrassing.
But.... my mom keeps asking about the dance. I think she wants to have that memory for herself, and it makes me start to wonder if I will regret not having a F/D dance like everyone else. I don't know what to do. I thought about having half a dance and then switching it up to something fun, but then I'm still dreading the awkward dance. When asked about having a dance my dad just shrugged and said 'I guess."
What would you think of that as a guest? Would it seem odd to just have a song played and have us just have a beer together? If you were a family member of a bride who did this would you be upset there wasn't that touching moment F/D moment?