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Little late to the "party" (if this thread can be called that - more like an alley-fight?) but I am in MN as well and at least in my family, it's always been an honored, enjoyable position. Maybe in NYC/CA you get some real bridezillas that view the position as 'slave/servant,' but in my experience it's a way to include a treasured family member or confidant that perhaps wouldn't "fit" the traditional bridesmaid age range.For me, my older cousin (17 years older than me) is my godmother and I really wanted her involved in the wedding, but I knew she didn't want to be a bridesmaid. So I asked her to be my PA and she was really excited about it!And in terms of the workload... maybe I'm just "easy-going," but the only thing she's really done is come to the fittings so far. She got instructions on how to bustle my dress, but other than that she's basically just gonna hang out with us all day (and maybe throw a few tampons in her purse in case I need them!)All the responses above seem downright bitchy and catty to me, and it's really a bummer, because everyone in my family really seems to dig the "insider" position in the wedding without all the demands of being a bridesmaid.