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Bridesmaids not doing their part

Reynoldswrap0485Reynoldswrap0485
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Has anyone or does anyone have suggestions on what to do when you feel your bridesmaids are not really giving any effort into helping with the weddinng or planning a shower and bachelorett party? I feel very stressed about this...i do not feel that any of them actually are trying to put effort into planning a shower and I am having to direct them or get them motovated.
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Re: Bridesmaids not doing their part

  • Mrs.B6302007Mrs.B6302007 member
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    edited June 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bridesmaids-not-doing-their-part?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:5c382881-71a8-4daf-9bd5-6002068be822Post:9a77b217-f1ed-4a40-aa7f-77c2eb199e61">Bridesmaids not doing their part</a>:
    [QUOTE]Has anyone or does anyone have suggestions on what to do when you feel your bridesmaids are not really giving any effort into helping with the weddinng or planning a shower and bachelorett party? I feel very stressed about this...i do not feel that any of them actually are trying to put effort into planning a shower and I am having to direct them or get them motovated.
    Posted by Reynoldswrap0485[/QUOTE]


    Being a BM doesn't require one to plan a shower or bachelorette party.  Those are parties that someone offers to give you.  If you are telling your BMs what to do, you run the risk of really offending them and possibly harming your relationships.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    If someone started asking me why I wasn't throwing her a shower/bachelorette, or why I wasn't helping her plan HER wedding, I'd be s million times less inclined to be nice to her. There's no way to ask them why they're not helping you plan YOUR wedding, or why they're not planning parties for you, without sounding incredibly selfish and greedy and selfentitled. Your job is to keep quiet and graciously accept whatever you may or may not get. They didn't decide to get married, so they are not responsible for helping you plan an event that you decided to throw. And brides are not automatically entitled to receive a shower/bachelorette, and it's not their obligation to throw them for you. If NONE of your friends are showing you any kindness whatsoever, I would take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself why that is. They may be busy, they may just have always been the types who don't want to help out, or they may be mad at you for something.
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  • mbcdefgmbcdefg member
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    If someone started asking me why I wasn't throwing her a shower/bachelorette, or why I wasn't helping her plan HER wedding, I'd be s million times less inclined to be nice to her. There's no way to ask them why they're not helping you plan YOUR wedding, or why they're not planning parties for you, without sounding incredibly selfish and greedy and selfentitled. Your job is to keep quiet and graciously accept whatever you may or may not get. They didn't decide to get married, so they are not responsible for helping you plan an event that you decided to throw. And brides are not automatically entitled to receive a shower/bachelorette, and it's not their obligation to throw them for you. If NONE of your friends are showing you any kindness whatsoever, I would take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself why that is. They may be busy, they may just have always been the types who don't want to help out, or they may be mad at you for something.
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