Mothers of the Bride

k8888 · March 2012

I sent this article (linked) to my mom. It's a really good read about why moms argue with daughters over stupid sh*t during wedding planning. It made me sad but it's real talk.

Melissa.hylton · March 2012

I wish my mother would argue with me. She isnt very motherly, more like a friend. She is against marriage all together and thinks that it is just a paper. But I am ok with her opinion. I tried to show my mom my wedding ring and she was just like "oh thats nice" lol So I dont really give her any details in regards. I spend more time talking to my grandma, my moms mom, about everything.

penny12986 · March 2012

Just read the article. It does have some good points but it sounds like this most applies to women who have lived with their parents up until the wedding and are attached at the hip.

I know that my mother loves me and is looking forward to this milestone as any mother would but nobody is going around clenching wedding dresses or refusing to send invitations like the ones in the article. I would be eloping at that point.

butterflyjumper1 · March 2012

I agree with Penny - the article is interesting and I am sure it applies to some people, but I have been very serious with my fiance for years and years, and haven't lived in my parent's home for...gosh.....9 years now, so the marriage is something that everyone knew was coming and is preparing for graciously and peacefully. My mom wants me to make every single decision concerning the wedding (sometimes I wish she would give me more opinions on the irrelevent things like napkin colors or the colors of the stones to put in centerpieces instead of just deciding that she loves every suggestion I make!) So this article isn't at all relevant to my wedding planning experience...BUT it defines to an absolute T a few of my friend's mothers who I have seen act this way.

bridetobe71412 · March 2012

This article makes me so happy to have my mom.

dramaqueen91087 · March 2012

This is so my mom. I live at home (my FI lives here too), and we work together, we pretty much do everything together. But we also fight a lot. The other day she freaked out on me in public because I said I didn't want to use a brown flower she has on the belt I'm maiking for my rehearsal dinner dress. This turned into why can't I have brown as one of my colors since she's wearing a brown dress. I was like, because its not and you don't have to match, and then she yelled at me for causing a scene, which she started. Its frustrating, I mean I get that she's emotional but really we're not even moving out after the wedding (unless I find a job this thursday!) so not much is going to change. OY.

cmhutchison22 · March 2012

When I lived with my parents my mom was taking over our wedding. I felt like I didn't make any of the descions. Since we have set the July date I have been able to make the wedding what I want and not what my mother wants. Like FI and I wanted to have a destination wedding from the start. Well my mother decided that I was getting married in the church I grew up in. I am having the destination wedding now.

k8888 · March 2012

I guess I have a much different relationship with my mother than most people since I still live with her. Her and my father divorced a few years ago so she's really leaned on me ever since. Because of the divorce, I ended up staying home longer than planned to help her out, and she helped me out by letting me live with her rent-free so I could put myself through grad school without taking out loans. I feel really horrible leaving her all alone now but we both know it's time for me to start my own life/family.

We haven't really argued over wedding stuff but every once in a while I see her starting to get seriously opinionated and I think it's just her trying to keep control while she's losing control... if that makes sense? She's an absolute control freak to begin with.

mekiakoo · March 2012

My mom isn't like that. She has been wonderful to plan the wedding with. I have no complaints at all. I am very grateful.

But I left home when I was in the 10th grade to stay at a deaf school during the week and be home on the weekends. I stayed home during my college years. Left again after I graduated from college. So my mom probably has had some practice on letting me go

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