Vowl renewal

ELLIOT_SEQUOIA · October 2010

I got married 9-9-09 in a legal ceremony. We did it this way because i was pregnant and i wanted to bring my child into a whole family. So after talking to my husband because i was sadden that i didnt get my wedding. So we came up with the vowel renewal idea. i read online tht your not supposed to have a wedding party does this apply considering i didnt have a wedding in the beginging i was thinking only 6 ppl one flowergirl and ring bearer???

lizarellie · October 2010

Vowel renewal, lol.

Ciaram22 · October 2010

First off its a Vow renewal and not a vowel renewal.

I think its alright to have a bridal party at a vow renewal. Just don't overdue it.

qwerty777 · October 2010

I don't think you should have a wedding party. And you did have a wedding--when you got married on 9-9-09. I also don't understand the point of a vow renewal unless you've been married like 10 or 25 years.

ELLIOT_SEQUOIA · October 2010

thank you for your input im not planning anything big just 50 people or less

ELLIOT_SEQUOIA · October 2010

i read online tht a vow renewal can be performed if you did not have a religious ceremony. We are very religious. I did not ask what you thought of the idea I asked about a wedding party. thank you for your input

Beachy730 · October 2010

Its a vow renewal. Please don't put vowel renewal on the invites.

I have seen vow renewals that have a WP, but that was a vow renewal at 10 years. I don't know what etiquette says on this though.

But your wedding was on 9-9-09. so whatever you do decide to have is not a wedding, it is a vow renewal. Be clear on that with your guests and your invites. Don't call it a wedding or do wedding related things, such as bouquet toss or first dances. Its a vow renewal ceremony which is different.

ELLIOT_SEQUOIA · October 2010

also i read no first dances ect but you can make up your own dances ex ppl who been married for 2 yrs to dance

JadziaDax · October 2010

I wouldn't have a wedding party but I don't see anything wrong with having a first dance. Granted it won't be your first dance as husband and wife, but you can still pick a special song to dance to- just don't call it a first dance.

banana468 · October 2010

Just out of curiosity, what is your religion?

If you two really are quite religious, keep in mind that you may have done some things that are against your faith already.

For example, if you're Catholic you have had premarital sex (something quite common for most Catholics to do I know but it is against the Church), and then you married outside the Church. So right now for the last year you wouldn't be in good standing.

So what sort of ceremony would you want to have if it isn't a vow renewal?

zitiqueen · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_vowl-renewal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3038ebab-3b5b-497d-94f6-e69f51084ad5Post:9bc773b4-c13b-4199-a744-77d6634ac4e7">Vowl renewal</a>:
[QUOTE]I got married 9-9-09 in a legal ceremony. We did it this way because i was pregnant and i wanted to bring my child into a whole family. So after talking to my husband because i was sadden that i didnt get my wedding. So we came up with the vowel renewal idea. i read online tht your not supposed to have a wedding party does this apply considering i didnt have a wedding in the beginging i was thinking only 6 ppl one flowergirl and ring bearer???
Posted by ELLIOT_SEQUOIA[/QUOTE]

You had your wedding already. It was the day you both said "I do." You didn't get to have your pretty princess day because of choices you both made. Having a VOW renewal after only one year sounds very gift-grabby.

Also, you don't get to dictate how people respond to you on a public message board that you chose to post on. See? Life is all about the choices we make.

sarah0725 · October 2010

I knw I hv t kp rnwng my vwls ll th tm. I kp lsng thm.

jeanna85 · October 2010

Before I started lurking on the Knot, I never heard of vow renewals except for 25th or 50th anniversaries, or at least very long standing couples. Having a vow renewal less than 2 years after your wedding (yes, you did have a wedding) seems excessive. Having a ring bearer, flower girl, and bridesmaids borders on outrageous to me- especially a ring bearer, are you getting new rings as well?

If you're itching to throw a party, throw a party. Just don't wear a white dress and have a WP.

MarriedInAFever · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_vowl-renewal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3038ebab-3b5b-497d-94f6-e69f51084ad5Post:e36dbbf0-d818-4c53-8c00-57d2dbc7cba5">Re: Vowl renewal</a>:
[QUOTE]I can't help but wince at the 68 weeks pregnant ticker.
Posted by mag920[/QUOTE]

My thoughts exactly. I bet that kid is HUGE <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue out" title="Tongue out" />

opalsky007 · October 2010

I find it interesting that you were able to find information online about whether it was appropriate to have a wedding party, and yet didn't know that it's not called a vowel renewal.

On the off chance that this is real, just have an anniversary party. All the fun, food and drink, none of the ugly dresses.

[Deleted User] · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_vowl-renewal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3038ebab-3b5b-497d-94f6-e69f51084ad5Post:1eb24e43-e0a1-4942-8f7e-04269dac134c">Re: Vowl renewal</a>:
[QUOTE]First off its a Vow renewal and not a vowel renewal. I think its alright to have a bridal party at a vow renewal. Just don't overdue it.
Posted by Ciaram22[/QUOTE]
overdue, lol

Beachy730 · October 2010

In Response to Re: Vowl renewal:
[QUOTEI personally would give you the side-eye for having a wedding party of 6 with only 50 guests, but that's me. It's going to look like half your guests are standing with you. Posted by brookelynpaisley[/QUOTE]

You would love BIL's wedding that I'm in next year. Their guest list is around 80 people. H and I were both asked to be in it, and we are 2 of 18 total in the WP. Its insane. Literally 1/4 of their guest list is the WP.

brookelynpaisley · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_vowl-renewal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:3038ebab-3b5b-497d-94f6-e69f51084ad5Post:692d54fd-75ae-4b98-ac2d-270eb4140c16">Re: Vowl renewal</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Vowl renewal : overdue, lol
Posted by daffodil_jill[/QUOTE]

Good catch.

SparrowSong · October 2010

You should definitely have it Wheel of Fortune style, and everyone can "buy a vowel" and call that your gift. Hahahaha. I crack myself up.

Sorry, I'm in the camp that says you're married, the chance for a pretty princess day is over. Just throw a fun party and leave the fake wedding stuff out of it.

tpender13 · October 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_vowl-renewal?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:3038ebab-3b5b-497d-94f6-e69f51084ad5Post:1eb24e43-e0a1-4942-8f7e-04269dac134c">Re: Vowl renewal</a>:
[QUOTE]First off its a Vow renewal and not a vowel renewal. I think its alright to have a bridal party at a vow renewal. Just don't <strong>overdue</strong> it.
Posted by Ciaram22[/QUOTE]

I'm going to point out someone's spelling mistake, then make one of my own. Whoops!

OP, I also think that you should just throw a really nice party if that's what you want.

LizHZ · October 2010

DF and I know lots of military couples who held large vow renewals at 1-year or some other anniversary (or randomly). Many (/most) of them are done up like big white weddings, with a few words changed during the ceremony. Some are more casual, like a big backyard bbq with tons of people invited. I personally think what you did for your child is wonderful, and you should still have a big white... vow renewal!

(I'm also a big fan of Heidi Klum and Seal's tradition of having a yearly vow renewal and party, btw).

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