So its been 24 days since the BIG day and things here are great.
The wedding had its bumps and bruises before, after and during...but I kept cool and had a beautiful wedding.
The bumps and bruises included many different issues that if I had not been prepared for it with a ...whatever happens happens attitude Im sure I would have been crying all day....
-Lets start with my Uncle the Officiant...he lives in Ontario and made it just fine to BC and our place...but forgot this little thing called a 'license' that he needs to preform outside of his province...but he arranged for another minister to be here to witness the ceremony, and he still preformed the ceremony so all went well.
-Then we have hair stylist that said she would do my hair the day of...and decided she was too busy and wouldnt be able to do it....2 hrs before pictures were to be taken...OMG. She doesnt take appointments but it was a verbal agreement between us, and her fellow employee was SHOCKED when I showed up and she said she wouldnt do it...walked out called my son to come get me and we check 2 other stylists and got lucky and had an amazing girl stay longer at work just to help me out(she was on way to NY for a Hairstylist conference in a couple hours for a week) my hair was awsome! she also got a $20 tip and Ive been back since to have her cut my hair.
-Then we go to the Japanese Garden to have pictures and first look done before wedding...Hubbie and BM are late getting there...its 35 degrees celcius out and Im melting...finally get into gardens and as Im not used to wearing any type of heel (mine were maybe 1.5" as hubbie is shorter then me) and the walkways are crushed gravel and Im sweating like a pig...not a pleasant walk...but the first look from him made up for all of it
-Then we get back to house...where we are having a frontyard garden wedding...and the breeze has gone through and blown place cards, menus, etc around...thank gawd for my step daughters s they fixed it all.
-While Im waiting inside I notice someone I dont recognize and think that we have an uninvited guest...not like I can go out and see who it is, but BM says he will deal with it..........then I notice it is an invited guest who has dyed her hair blond..OMG!
BM fixes my mistake....thank you!
-Then we get to the fun stuff...oldest stepdaughter comes in upset but wont tell me why...she says we will talk after ( as she doesnt want this day wrecked) and guests dont understand the concept of 'bar is not open until AFTER ceremony'...but that gets straightened out
-We get to the ceremony time and it goes flawlessly...music timed to the second as to when my son hands me over to H....ring a bit tight but goes on.
-sign the license and we are married and the real drama starts.
-This is when I found out from my stepdaughter why she was upset...it seems her cousin came up to her and started going on about why her father (H brother) wasnt invited...he had been until he started talking sh*t about both of us and said he didnt want to show up anyway...then went on to text me about what a f*ck#n controlling b*tch I was and that I was just like H exwife...at which time I said that he didnt need to bother showing up then if he wasnt happy with the wedding happening as we only want people that are happy for us to be here...needless to say I have no idea what he told her was said....and cousin went to the most emotional of the girls to cry to her and made her feel bad...for a decision that was made by both H and me. Then same cousin brings up to same stepdaughter the fact that H adopted daughter wasnt there either....she had also been invited and I had even wanted to include her in the day, and she agreed that she would be happy to be my hostess...but then kept talking behind my back about what a dumb job it was and how she didnt want to do it...not to me tho. So I let her know that it was fine and she didnt need to do any of it...I would figure something else out.
Her and I have had many issues as she blames me for her being kicked out of the house...but I was extending the olive branch and hoping to start again. truce was short lived and between the lying and stealing and how abusive was she was to her sisters and dad she was told it would be best not to be here that day. as we didnt need to be babysitting her every move or have any of the drama that comes when she is around.
So with this cousin going on and on...plus going up to the bar and getting doubles and making it worse...BM handled that also and let her know she had to leave
-MIL/FIL didnt even congratulate either of us or say 'welcome to the family' ...nothing. which is still a bit of a sore point with me
-my stepson from previous marriage was picking fights
-one friend was just being a total b*tch towards another friend...plus she went so far as to tell my stepdaughter that I would probably hate her for not doing her speech...WTH!?
-married guest was fooling around with single guest after the wife left
and after all of this I only went and cried in the bathroom for 2 minutes
so all in all it was an amazing day and Im so glad it is over. Im not surprised at the drama as that is the family I knew I was marrying into...just disappointed that it had to happen on that day, when things could have been said and cleared up weeks before that. Oh well...Im married to the man I love and have living with us my two kids and his two kids, and for a blended family we are doing just fine
