What would you do about this wedding idea? XP

blee10 · May 2011

Done fooling with this nonsense. Im strong enough to know my own options without opinions.

aegrish · May 2011

Blee I replied to your post on the Ceremony Board. Please put XP in double posts! Thanks

StacyJenniges · May 2011

I would attned. I had a friend who got married at the Justice of the Peace because of imigration issues. About a year later the had the full blown wedding at a church. I attened that wedding and didn't think nothing of it.

In reality though the only people's whose opinions matter in these situations are your guests. Sounds like they want this full blown cermony.

blee10 · May 2011

Thank you so much!

trix1223 · May 2011

I'd think that you had gotten sucked into the Wedding Industry's fantasy that everyone "deserves" a big, white dress, Wedding Industry Wedding.

I think you'll be a married woman. I think you should revel in that and skip the do-over later. But you clearly, based on other posts have made your mind up, so I'm not really sure why you're even asking the question.

But gee....good luck.

lyndausvi · May 2011

I like a good party. If it was local and it didn't interfere with work then I would still attend.

I'm not sure I would travel and/or take off work to attend though.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

Well, there's no way in hell I would attend a bridal shower for someone who was already married. As for the rest of it, it depends.

Maggieaha · May 2011

Generally, they call it a vow renewal. My aunt and uncle did this about 20 years after they were married since they were married in a courthouse. I attended, so I suppose I would attend one today.

bethsmiles · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:4276041f-93e9-43a7-a670-2075cae41ce2">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]I would be offended, and not attend.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

What exactly about it would offend you? That word is seriously over-used.

OP - call it a vow renewal and skip the bridal shower.

Kris092988 · May 2011

My husband and I are doing this, we got married at the court house and are having the big ceremony (vow renewal per the etiquette police) and reception on our one year anniversary. Every one here frowns upon it, but my in-laws pretty much require it, and they are all looking forward to it. And note to the etiquette police, they call it our weddng, not our vow renewal ceremony, and yes they all know that we are married so we are not lying to anybody. And they are throwing a bridal shower and stuff for us, just because we got married didn't mean we instantly had everything that everyone usually gives to newlyweds. We weren't asking for gifts, but his family told us to register so they knew what we wanted. Things aren't as they used to be, I think people are now aware of circumstances changing and people getting married before they can afford an extravagant wedding.
So, I would obviously attend =] And as for the other posters who said they wouldn't travel or take off work, we have guests coming in from New York and California, staying for several days. If a couple chooses to say their vows in private and have a ceremony later on, I see no reason not to attend.

blee10 · May 2011

Thank you all for your opinions. Some I care for other opinions are like a**holes and everyone has one, and some of yours stink.

haha. We have sat down and talked about it. and for the ones of you saying dont have a bridal shower. Really, do you honestly think I am throwing my own bridal shower? Its because I didnt get to have one before, and MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS are throwing it. Sorry that some of you are too cheap to come to one based soley on tradition. But a little ridiculous at how ruthless some opinions are. . . I ask for a simple opinion not a bashing. So thank you anyways.

DramaGeek · May 2011

You know, I didn't get a graduation party when I finished grad school. I think I'll have one now.

Lisa50 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:f5613cea-7f93-476e-9fa3-c968f8dace6e">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]You know, I didn't get a graduation party when I finished grad school. I think I'll have one now.
Posted by DramaGeek[/QUOTE]

Good idea!

Jerusha19 · May 2011

Wow, I am horrified by some of the responses I am seeing here. I do see that the bride in question changed her post so I don't know Exactly what her question was but from the few positive responses I have kind of figured out the gist of it. A few years ago my cousin had a set wedding date in Aug, she then got married in May of that year at the courthouse with only 3 people in attendance (me, her FI BFF and a guy friend of hers). The also kept their regular church date and held their full ceremony and reception then. I hosted a Bridal Shower for her and no one was at all offended that they were already married when they came to the wedding. So a giant F You to all the people out there with crummy attitudes who are being snobby.

trix1223 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:b537b710-f573-4afc-89e6-34f41e7b3e54">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow, I am horrified by some of the responses I am seeing here. I do see that the bride in question changed her post so I don't know Exactly what her question was but from the few positive responses I have kind of figured out the gist of it. A few years ago my cousin had a set wedding date in Aug, she then got married in May of that year at the courthouse with only 3 people in attendance (me, her FI BFF and a guy friend of hers). The also kept their regular church date and held their full ceremony and reception then. I hosted a Bridal Shower for her and no one was at all offended that they were already married when they came to the wedding. So a giant F You to all the people out there with crummy attitudes who are being snobby.
Posted by Jerusha19[/QUOTE]

Aren't you special. You've been reported.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:6e8a53a1-28e6-4e17-a796-f13af57a9e44">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]My husband and I are doing this, we got married at the court house and are having the big ceremony (vow renewal per the etiquette police) and reception on our one year anniversary. Every one here frowns upon it, but my in-laws pretty much require it, and they are all looking forward to it. And note to the etiquette police, they call it our weddng, not our vow renewal ceremony, and yes they all know that we are married so we are not lying to anybody. And they are throwing a bridal shower and stuff for us, just because we got married didn't mean we instantly had everything that everyone usually gives to newlyweds. We weren't asking for gifts, but his family told us to register so they knew what we wanted. <strong>Things aren't as they used to be, I think people are now aware of circumstances changing and people getting married before they can afford an extravagant wedding.</strong> So, I would obviously attend =] And as for the other posters who said they wouldn't travel or take off work, we have guests coming in from New York and California, staying for several days. If a couple chooses to say their vows in private and have a ceremony later on, I see no reason not to attend.
Posted by Kris092988[/QUOTE]

If you're old enough to get married the way you want to, get married the way you want to. If it means a small ceremony or eloping, do it and don't let your family pressure you into something else. If you want the big wedding, then why on earth would you get married before that? Grow a pair and own your decisions.

Jerusha19 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:aa65986f-142f-4062-b251-82b1803ff2ab">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP : Aren't you special. You've been reported.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

Reported for what? having an opinion that differs from yours? I'm sorry, I didn't know you own the site.

Edit: You know what, I'll just start blocking all the people that have really judegmental posts such as yourself and that way I don't have to see any of the negativity spewing from your fingers and won't write something that will in turn offend you. Everyone wins. :P

trix1223 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:3ca675a1-e275-4642-895d-f2b9a27cd3b2">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP : Reported for what? having an opinion that differs from yours? I'm sorry, I didn't know you own the site. Edit: You know what, I'll just start blocking all the people that have really judegmental posts such as yourself and that way I don't have to see any of the negativity spewing from your fingers and won't write something that will in turn offend you. Everyone wins. :P
Posted by Jerusha19[/QUOTE]

Jerusha: you were reported for using profane language. And as your post was deleted, it appears that it was indeed, out of line.

sarah0632 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:65c43b40-420a-443c-ab23-3000ea0a38cd">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP : Jerusha: <strong>you were reported for using profane language. And as your post was deleted, it appears that it was indeed, out of line.</strong>
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

Grow up Trix! Her post wasn't deleted and no one likes a tattle-tail. Are we not grown women? Your comment was rude and you sound like a bitter person. Don't dish it out if you can't take it!

sarah0632 · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_would-this-wedding-idea?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:48258cff-f505-439a-b25a-3de0cf4828b9Post:ec26359a-023e-4315-bac5-a877118b0f87">Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What would you do about this wedding idea? XP : Oh, yes it was! Foul language is not appreciated on the Knot. Trix was merely answering Jerusha's question, "Reported for what?" Sarah, your comments to Trix are uncalled for.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

To each their own. Personally, I'd take foul language not directed at anyone over bashing people which happens far too much on theknot from people who post 141000000 billion times. Trix is the one who originally said "Well aren't you 'special' You're getting reported". I find that more offensive than Jerusha's comment.

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