Unique Maid of Honor/Matron of Honor dilemma

Re: Unique Maid of Honor/Matron of Honor dilemma

• joleri23 member

  

  December 2012 edited December 2012

  I didn't vote, but here's my thought: why can't you just have two maids of honor?

  

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• kmmssg mod

  

  December 2012

  Exactly what do you need assistance with?  That is your FI's job, not your MOH's.  Your post sounds pretty entitled.

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• Marrin713 member

  

  December 2012

  Not such a unique problem after all.
  
  Just leave everyone as is.  BTW - There's nothing these two women have to help you with.

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• Winnertag1 member

  

  December 2012

  So your friend is flying across the country with her 2 young children - 2 months after giving birth and you are complaining about how she isnt going to be able to "assisst" you because she has to "pump" every 2 hours and want to change her title and give it to someone else?

  
  

  You sound like a great friend.

  
  

  You should be planning your wedding with your FI, it isnt up to anyone else nor is it anyone's role to help you.

  
  
  

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• unchatenfrance

  

  December 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_unique-maid-of-honormatron-of-honor-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:28d8a147-a0f8-41f9-ae3b-a992c2e68a9ePost:f201403d-acae-4516-81b9-9a898efed26d">Unique Maid of Honor/Matron of Honor dilemma</a>:
  [QUOTE]I know that she isn't going to have time to assist me the way that I'm going to need to be assisted[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>Do you hear yourself? I mean really hear yourself? You're not Miranda Priestley, FFS. What is it that you will possibly need assistance with that you and your FI can't handle yourselves?</div>

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• aquari0216 member

  

  December 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_unique-maid-of-honormatron-of-honor-dilemma?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:28d8a147-a0f8-41f9-ae3b-a992c2e68a9ePost:f201403d-acae-4516-81b9-9a898efed26d">Unique Maid of Honor/Matron of Honor dilemma</a>:
  [QUOTE]I really appreciate any insight that can be given to me regarding this situation.. My maid of honor and I have been friends forever. When I asked her to be my maid of honor, she was engaged to be married and a mother of 1. Since I asked her to be my maid of honor, she has become pregnant with another child. The 2nd baby is due 2 months before my wedding. The couple will be traveling with both children across county for the wedding. That being said, I know that she isn't going to have time to assist me the way that I'm going to need to be assisted (since they will be away from their babysitter and family, and also since she will be having to pump every 2 hours).  I have another very close friend who I debated on whether to originally make her the MOH or not. She has been assisting me very much with the wedding, and will continue to do so during the wedding.  Could I make the original maid of honor a matron of honor instead? I know that the matron is supposed to be married, but I thought that the latin meaning of matron had something to do with having children. My thought is to make her the matron of honor since she's engaged and has 2 children, and then to make my other best friend the maid of honor since she has plenty of time and is able to be more active within the wedding. I really appreciate any thoughts you may have regarding this situation! Thank you so very much!
  Posted by kelseynorvell[/QUOTE]
  
  
  
  Two maids of honor...
  Voila! Cuz u can't change her position

  ****The Future Mrs. Ikeard****

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• random4180 member

  

  December 2012

  If you mean help getting dressed on the day of or something like that, I get that aspect because I couldn't get into my own dress completely on my own and needed my sister (matron of honor) to help lace up my corset and my other sister (maid of honor) helped me with my makeup. But they were given those titles originally (not promoted or demoted) and were they not there, I'd simply have made other arrangements. My sister's children were also all in the wedding party and the whole family travelled 8 hours to my wedding and we were all still able to get our hair done together and get dressed together in the hotel room. I would let your MOH decide whether she takes part in the "getting dressed together" part, if that's something you want to happen. Make arrangements to make sure you're ready (again, that was the only thing I could see a bride actually needing assistance with that you might not FI helping with!) Make sure if you make arrangements to have hair and makeup done with BM or decide to schedule pre-ceremony photos that you make her aware of that option but remember that she really just needs to show up at the ceremony as far as "MOH duties" go.

  

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