After my not-so-great bridesmaid dress-shopping experience as well as other planning experiences, it is becoming apparent to me that I am going to have a lot of trouble keeping stress-free at the wedding. I still have a little anxiety when I think of that shopping trip. I always want everyone around me to be happy, and I internalize it if they are not.
I do have a planner to work with my vendors so they won't be contacting me with questions/problems. However is there a way to do this with parents/bridal party? Can I tell them in advance if they have any issues/questions about the wedding the day-of to go to my planner first? Of course they can come to me with personal problems. If a BM's boyfriend broke up with her or such, I am still their friend and shoulder to cry on just like any other day. I just don't want to deal with wedding-related annoyances like disputes over who deserves to get their hair/makeup done in what order, girls deciding they can't afford hair/makeup last minute even though that means I'd contractually have to pay for it myself, dress issues, issues with seating or other guests, etc. (all things that I anticipate coming up based on conversations I've had with them already). Also, my mom went to this one wedding this year and is convinced we have to do everything just like they did. She has all these strong opinions on what the videographer, photographer, and stylists should be doing and I don't want her sharing these with me when I've already decided what I want.
Can I reach out or have my MOH or planner reach out saying that they will be the point of contact for this stuff?