Engagement Ring Issue

footballring · December 2012

My girlfriend was curious one night what I was thinking, she passively was concerned I was keeping a secret. Finally I broke down and told her i purchased "The Ring".

She never saw the ring, but I am concerned she won't be surprised when i officially ask her. What do you Think

Help!!!

AddieCake · December 2012

Well, she obviously won't be surprised if she knows you bought the ring. Are you looking for proposal ideas?

footballring · December 2012

Yes I do need proposal ideas. Do you think I ruined the surprise element?

Avion22 · December 2012

I had a good idea that the ring had been purchased, but didn't know when the proposal was coming. It was very sweet and lovely, and I'm glad he just went for it instead of trying to cook up something huge (and making me wait while he came up with something I probably wouldn't have liked as much anyway). No that she knows about the ring, try not to make her wait too long. Proposals don't need to be big and flashy (despite what you see on YouTube). Just be yourself:-)

AdeleDazeem · December 2012

I knew my husband had the ring but I hadn't a clue when he was going to propose.

One day, we were back at college (where we met) and he wanted to go for a walk. Sure, okay. About halfway through the walk, it dawned on me what was about to happen. When he finally did propose about thirty minutes later, it was perfect. No grand plan, no great surprise... just a boy and girl who met at this place, walking around, reliving old memories, and saying they wanted to marry each other. A surprise proposal certainly wouldn't have made that moment any better.

SB1512 · December 2012

I had no idea I was getting a ring. About 6 months after FI and I started dating my birthday was approaching, and I remember him saying that he was really excited about the gift he got me and he hopes I liked it......he followed that sentence up with "and it's not jewelry. I'll never be buying you jewelry, I think it's a waste of money gift." So, even though we had been living together and talked about buying selling his condo to buy a house, I honestly never thought he would get me a ring. I think I knew he would propose, but I always joked that he'd propose with a car (he's a huge car guy) instead of a ring. So when I did get a ring (and found out that aroound that first birthday of mine he began saving for a ring) it was a really big surprise. But, I don't think knowing you are getting a ring ruins anything. She hasn't seen the ring, so there still is the surprise element coming.

AddieCake · December 2012

I picked out my own ring, so I knew the proposal was coming; I just didn't know when exactly. I was perfectly happy with the way it all went.

HobokensFury · December 2012

Trust me she's going to be surprised. I picked out my own ring but had no idea when/how he would propose. I was in shock when he did and nothing was ruined.

footballring · December 2012

Thank You everyone for your responses, I was really starting to feel bad about telling her about the Ring. She did say she was very anxious about when I was going to do it and what the ring looked like. I think the Proposal scene has been heightened with anxiousness

OliveOilsMom · December 2012

I picked out my ring and was still beyond shocked when my H proposed. He planned to wait until NYE and proposed right before we left for the evening, so that all of our friends would see the ring and we would celebrate two things that night. The day before that, we both had off from work and just hung out all day. Then went to a really nice place for dinner since we got a gift card from my parents. By the time we got home, he just felt that we had such a great day together, he wasn't waiting another night and decided to ask right then.

So really, when the moment to propose hits you, you will know it. Just because she knows about the ring, doesn't mean the surprise will be ruined.

Good luck and Congrats!

lmzm0605 · December 2012

Not to worry- nothing has been ruined!! I knew the day that my hubby-to-be got the ring because he just couldn't keep it from me (and the look on his face was a dead giveaway!) and the "heightened anxiousness" you describe is spot on. The proposal came a week later and I was dying with a happy anxiety of when the big moment would arrive. Every time he paused to sneeze or tie his shoes I literally held my breath. And walking over to the table where he propsed, I got a sense it was coming and the build-up made the actual moment still so very special. In the end, I think everyone's proposal is special and perfect in its own unique way. Happy engagement to be and best of luck to you both!!