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Hi ladies, I'm new here.  I was married before for almost seven years and was in an emotional abusive relationship.  I've since moved on and I am now extremely excited to be planning a wedding to the most amazing man.  This will be his first marriage.  We haven't set a date yet, but are thinking November of next year.  I hate to wait that long, but my brother is getting married in September and we're trying to decide if it's in bad taste to plan to get married before them?

Also, is everyone walking down the aisle by yourself?  My father gave me away at my last wedding and it seems silly to have him do it again.  Especially since I'm grown and have to children and this is my second marriage. 

I look forward to getting great advice from you ladies!

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  • Congratulations on your engagement! You can choose to get married any time you want. Your brother gets one day and you get one day. If he chose to have a long engement that doesn't mean that you have to wait to get married after him.
    You can also have your dad escort you down the aisle again if you'd like. I would just leave off the who gives this bride to be wed part.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_newbie-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:35Discussion:a9614d65-8b47-45fd-8fc7-bb36a1f7e36aPost:5b9d27a2-8eb9-4aac-a3f7-8f51e5d7f460">Re: Newbie</a>:
    [QUOTE]Congratulations on your engagement! You can choose to get married any time you want. Your brother gets one day and you get one day. If he chose to have a long engement that doesn't mean that you have to wait to get married after him. <strong>You can also have your dad escort you down the aisle again if you'd like. I would just leave off the who gives this bride to be wed part.</strong>
    Posted by nlindsay17[/QUOTE]

    <div>This exactly.  I thought my father wouldn't want to escort me down the aisle since he did it with husband #2 but I was VERY wrong and it took my son talking to him and then telling me what was said for me to realize how wrong I was.  Talk to your father if that's what you'd like to have happen and let him make the decision.</div><div>
    </div><div>And congratulations on your engagement!</div>
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  • Congratulations on your engagement!!!  No one should ever remain in an abusive relationship, so congratulations for having the fortitude to leave.

    The only reason to have some space between your bother's wedding and your wedding is if you intend on inviting many of the same guests.  

    If you want your father to escort you down the aisle again - ask him and see what he says. Some ladies perfer to walk alone, some have their children walk with them, some have their moms walk with them.  
  • Congrats on your engagement and welcome to the board.

    The above answers are correct. You can have your wedding when you want, and if you want your dad to walk you down the aisle, and he agrees, then do it. Some people walk down with their soon-to-be-husband, some by themselves. Do what makes you happy.

    Good luck. Looking forward to hearing your plans.
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    [QUOTE]Hi ladies, I'm new here.  I was married before for almost seven years and was in an emotional abusive relationship.  I've since moved on and I am now extremely excited to be planning a wedding to the most amazing man.  This will be his first marriage.  We haven't set a date yet, but are thinking November of next year.  I hate to wait that long, but my brother is getting married in September and <strong>we're trying to decide if it's in bad taste to plan to get married before them</strong>? Also, is everyone <strong>walking down the aisle by yourself</strong>?  My father gave me away at my last wedding and it seems silly to have him do it again.  Especially since I'm grown and have to children and this is my second marriage.  I look forward to getting great advice from you ladies!
    Posted by 2ndTimeBride82[/QUOTE]

    I don't think it is in bad taste to get married before your brother.  One of you will get married first.  I'd say planning the wedding for the exact date would be rude, though. Have you and your fiance talked to your brother about it?

    The minister, best men (we each had one), H and I processed to the canopy in a single file.  I guess that fits in the "by yourself" category. Plan your procession to fit your personal style and enjoy!

    Congratulations on your engagement! *clink*
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