Has anyone planted a tree instead of a unity candle or sand?

Re: Has anyone planted a tree instead of a unity candle or sand?

• Kaylanoom

  

  April 2012

  I'm not doing this, but I have seen it done.
  
  The grooms mother, and the brides mother both carry something essential to add to the pot. I believe one had dirt and one had water.
  
  They discussed how important it is to have the love and support of family to "put down roots" and grow together. And how each side brings something essential to the couple.
  
  Was a really pretty, moving ceremony.

  

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• TiffannieF member

  

  April 2012

  eeeehhhhhhh....I say just ditch the material "unity" symbolism....you are getting married, watch your marriage grow over the years.  Trust me guests won't be confused why you didn't do a unity candle or tree or anything.

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• buddrball

  

  April 2012

  I've been thinking of doing this too, where we each have our parents bring soil from our childhood homes, so it acts as the unity of ourselves and our families. The ONLY thing I'm worried about is that I have a partial green thumb. I'm terrified of killing the plant! I've managed to kill basil and mint...those are pretty much weeds! Anyway, I'd really research what kind of tree you want to use. Something hearty and that can live in your particular climate.  Maybe talk to someone at a farmers market or nursery to make sure you know exactly how to take care of the plant. 

  
  

  But besides my own paranoia, I love the idea. I think it's especially fitting for an outdoor, casual ceremony. 

  

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• rgomez27941

  

  April 2012

  I think it's a darling idea! I would go for it! The only thing I would be nervous about is getting soil on my white dress! :-) Good luck!

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• tamrahelmer

  

  April 2012

  I haven't seen it done, but I'm thinking of using the idea for our ceremony as well. I just cant fathom spending money on something that will get stuffed away in a box, and we already have a house together that has NO trees in the yard. I'm planning on looking around this summer at local greenhouses and such, and talking to some type of landscaping person to see what is the  best for us.

  
  

  My main concern here is that I wont want to get soil on my dress, or in the church. I'm hoping they can wrap it in burlap inside a pot so it wont make a mess, and we can use minimal soil.

  
  
  

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• naturenut7 member

  

  April 2012

  i had a friend do this for their ceremony.  they had a small tree already planted in a pot sitting on a table with 2 small piles of dirt on the corners, and a towel behind the pot for them to wipe their hands off afterwards.  when the time came, they just scooped up some dirt and scattered it in the pot, no patting or anything so their hands weren't too dirty, then wiped them with the towel.  they plan on planting it in the yard of their first house together.

  

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• cwaggoner07 member

  

  April 2012

  We are doing a wine box instead of a unity candle. Of course, we both love wine.

  It was a fairytale.

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• cf1988 member

  

  April 2012

  I've thought about this idea myself, but the potential of getting my dress dirty is a big deterrent. I was thinking about having a tree in a pot at the reception, with a written explanation that we will plant the tree when we get home, and having guests write a well-wish on a small piece of paper that can hang in the tree. People decorate the tree during the reception, then we can put all the notes in a scrapbook afterward and plant the tree when we're not dressed in expensive clothing. =]
  
  But I really love the above poster's suggestion about doing the ceremony and having the families add the water and the soil. So sweet!

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• spiment member

  

  May 2012

  This is one of the nicest unity ceremony ideas I've ever seen. Everything else has seemed so cheesy to me, but this is honestly really really nice. Of course, I kill plants all the time sooo maybe not for me. But I love this.

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