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Honoring sister at wedding

jcaires381jcaires381 member
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Okay so I originally was going to have seven girls on my side but then decided to only put my friends that have ALWAYS been there for me. With that said I was going to have two maid of honors my sister and my beat friend. Now that I am only having four girls on my side I've decided to only have one maid of honor so the other two don't feel like they aren't special enough. I chose my best friend since we do everything together and my sister is only 18 and in her very busy senior year of high school. My question is what is a creative name for my sister to still honor her? I was thinking Sister of Honor or Sistermaid, something cute where she can still feel special without hurting others feelings in the process.
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  • waltzingmatilda13waltzingmatilda13 member
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    edited December 2011
    Being a BM is an honor, you don't need a special title to go along with it. Also, I presume people will know she's your sister so you don't need to point it out. You could also forgo having an MOH at all and just have 4 BMs. 
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  • RaptorSLHRaptorSLH member
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    edited December 2011
    While it's a nice thought, cutesy titles can end up being insulting and patronizing.  People mostly know the difference between a real honor title and a made-up one, that pretends to be something more but isn't.  Either have two MOHs, as planned (and if you had previously asked them as MOH, definitely don't back out now) or one MOH and 3 BM.

    Also - your sister being in high school is not a good reason to demote her.  Don't believe the wedding industry when they tell you a MOH must be your personal assitant, unpaid event coordinator, and bottomless wallet party-thrower.  That way lies ruined friendships.  Pick whoever you're closest to, regardless of age, time,  or finances, and accept any help offered as the generous but optional gift that is is.
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_honoring-sister-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:d774ed12-d7b7-4969-a717-5062975232f3Post:bbc93b18-8f83-44b6-b9c5-16df7297c481">Re: Honoring sister at wedding</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you want to properly honor your sister at your wedding?  Give her a big hug after the ceremony, and tell her how happy you are that she could be with you on this special day in your life.  That's better than a silly title.
    Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]
    *nods* Hugs are better than titles, always.
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  • graysquirrelgraysquirrel member
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    edited December 2011

    Made up titles are a good way to get side-eyed at weddings. Everyone would know that it was fake and patronizing. If it were me and I was demoted from MOH to sistermaid, I'd wonder what in the world that even meant.

    I understand the desire to only have the one MOH, but if you have already asked two people to be MOHs, then please don't demote one. That would be a real slap in the face. She would wonder why she wasn't special enough and would likely resent the other girl.

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  • lizoakes1984lizoakes1984
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    I went to a wedding recently where the sister was a Junior Maid of Honor, just an idea
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