I'm new here, so forgive me if this is the wrong spot for this post.
My BF, let's call him K, and I are getting engaged this weekend (I know because his Mom told me and is having me get my nails done for the occasion). Well K and I have been discussing our wedding for a long time and this week we talked about it again and actually picked a date (a little backwards, I know, but he brought it up, so I just went with it). Anyway, pretty much ever since we've been seriously discussing wedding plans, K's mom has been coming at me with suggestions and things that we simply must do...and I don't even have the ring on my finger yet. In the past, even recently, when she doesn't get her way, she takes it very personally and gets upset and lashes out...usually in the form of the silent treatment or a few scathing text messages, sometimes both and then some. So naturally, I'm aprehensive about telling her that we're not doing some of the things she's suggesting. We've been planning this day for a really long time and there are certain things we just do not want. How can I handle this without hurting her feelings and causing a huge family problem??