Shocked and kind of annoyed

achiduck · June 2012

So we've been pretty lucky and haven't had too many "I'm invited, right?" questions.

We just had a new girl start at the office last week on Tuesday and she noticed that I'm engaged and asked a few basic "when and where is it" questions. I answered those but avoided the rest of her question. Today we're going over some stuff and she says "just so you know there's no pressure to invite me to your wedding, I understand how expensive they are, but I could come after dinner or since it's at X Venue (which happens to be a restaurant) I could have dinner with my BF and then happen to come downstairs afterwards."

Ahh! She's trying to turn my wedding into a tiered reception. I was so annoyed I hardly knew what to say!

mrshall1027 · June 2012

Oh wow! How did you respond?

AEPerpete · June 2012

That's really rude of her. Looks like someones trying to push her way into your plans... Hopefully, if she doesn't get an invite, and you don't let her pepper you with questions, she'll get the hint...or you know, just be mature about it.
Also-- suuuper awkward that she just started there, and you don't really even know eachother!

achiduck · June 2012

I just kind of stuttered for a few seconds and said we haven't completely finalized the guest list but I don't personally care for tiered receptions and then changed the subject back to work stuff.

CFM102012 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]I just kind of stuttered for a few seconds and said we haven't completely finalized the guest list but I don't personally care for tiered receptions and then changed the subject back to work stuff.
Posted by achiduck[/QUOTE]
I think you handled it well. Hopefully she'll have gotten the hint.

brainybrunette · June 2012

Yeah...totally rude on her part!

I guess you can't stop her from eating dinner at the restaurant the day of your wedding, but does she realize that she wants to be a wedding crasher!

I wouldn't talk about your wedding around her and be really vague / tell her that you prefer not to discuss the wedding plans at work if she brings it up again.

aimee58 · June 2012

Awkward....who does these things?

I think you responded really well. Hopefully she'll pick up when you meant.

missmckenzie2 · June 2012

Good response! And seriously what is wrong with people! She just started there last week right?!

minionlover · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_shocked-and-kind-of-annoyed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:a3c6e866-7984-4732-addd-bce0e6e2121aPost:fa3b5102-9edf-465e-84c4-64b8229d88dd">Re: Shocked and kind of annoyed</a>:
[QUOTE]Awkward....<strong>who does these things</strong>? I think you responded really well. Hopefully she'll pick up when you meant.
Posted by aimee58[/QUOTE]

This is excatly what I was going to say!!

tamrahelmer · June 2012

I can't believe people still act like this! You handled it really well though! Much better than I probably would have being caught off guard, lol.

RockstarWifey0912 · June 2012

Crazy! I mean, if on the day of the wedding, she just happened to be there for dinner and remembered, "Oh yeah, Duck's wedding is downstairs, I'm just going to pop in and say congrats..." BUT it genuienly sounds like she wants to crash the wedding. LAME.

fishinflagrl · June 2012

You definitely handled it well. I think that was sooo rude of her. Are you even planning on inviting her? I know we had a discussion a while back about office people...such a tough subject!

achiduck · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_shocked-and-kind-of-annoyed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:a3c6e866-7984-4732-addd-bce0e6e2121aPost:e85119b1-c283-47c9-b803-71b8242b6a46">Re: Shocked and kind of annoyed</a>:
[QUOTE]Good response! And seriously what is wrong with people! <strong>She just started there last week right?!</strong>
Posted by missmckenzie2[/QUOTE]
As of today, she's worked for the company for 1 week exactly.<div>
</div><div>I'm inviting my boss, immediate supervisor and a handful of coworkers I've worked with for over 3 years. I wasn't planning on inviting her unless we became close between now and when invitations go out. </div>

halij52002 · June 2012

Weirdo....

shoebie · June 2012

Very good response, Is the rest of the office invited ?

fishinflagrl · June 2012

I dont know...that is just way too odd. I figures maybe shes been there a little longer...but a week. Come on, seriously?!

Ividian · June 2012

I wouldn't look at it too harshly, unless it turns out she really is just a pushy rude person. She may be insecure and trying to make friends and 'fit in' as it were. But no argument that she put you in a very awkward situation, thankfully the people I work with are really cool about it and I can talk about my plans with some of them without worrying about this kind of thing.

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