Hi Bees
Wanted to get your opinion on asking for gift cards or making a wish list instead of a traditional registry. For complicated reasons with my fiance family and his wish that they not come to the wedding (though they are actively trying to get the information), we don't want our date or location of the wedding to be public or searchable. We are having a really hard time finding a store that will do this. We will most likely register at one local store, but we have guests coming from all over the world. The local mom and pop store is also a bit more expensive than the national chains (so guests might complain..though supporting local is cool)
Is it tacky to just ask for gift cards? This way we wouldn't have the date public anywhere. My fiance and I also would generally prefer to pick out our own items when they go on sale or through special websites like foundry.com, gilthome.com (that are flash sample sales). We are also thinking of doing a honeymoon registry or a registry where you can ask for specific gifts (but are actually cash for buying museum memberships, special dinner, etc). I don't want to seem like we are just cash hungry, but we also live in a small apartment.
My mom still thinks people will want to physically buy gifts. Any opinions. And if you did go this route, how did you politely word it on your website?
Alternatively, does anyone know about registries that do not make you put in the date and/or have privacy features?
Thanks!