So 3 of the 4 of my bridesmaids have kids. They said they are not bringing them to the shower and I figured that was a personal choice. Well I said something about my daughter and little cousin coming and they are saying they agreed no kids. My 2 yo is a good kid. I don't think it's fair she should miss out when I know she would have fun and be able to see family. Also some of my family is coming from out of town and if it was me, I wouldn't want to leave my child at home to go.
I don't understand why I can't have kids at the shower, but then they are invited to the wedding. So do I insist on kids or do what they want??
ETA: I figured I would have a small bachelorette party with a few close friends. My mom has a 7 passenger car and offered to drive us. Well the BM want to get a 20 passenger bus and want it filled so the bus will be payed for, which I understand. So I'm inviting people that I haven't talked to or seen in 2 years and I still don't have enough people for the bus. To get more people, they decided they are each going to bring a friend so there will be people there I don't even know.
Do I say something about this or just let it go? Also is it tacky for everyone who is going on the bus to pay? I've gotten a party bus before and payed for it myself, I didn't charge people.