So my FMIL and I have always gotten along fine. We're not super close or anything but shes nice. Since we've been wedding planning she's driving me a little crazier than I already am.
First it was the hotel. She wanted us to stay in the same hotel with her and her family (the wedding is not at a hotel). I/we (mostly me, I'll be honest) didn't really want to because of privacy and the fact that I just wanted to relax the night before after we're done the RD. She was all upset about this because she wanted to hang out the night before and see her son in the morning. As far as I know he plans on golfing and then getting ready with the guys. So we haven't booked a hotel yet but will soon.
Now it's the rehearsal dinner which she generously offered to pay for with FFIL. Great. I picked a place thats in the budget and nice with amazing food. She isn't sure if we can have it there now because the menu will change for summer and she need's to have steak on it for FFIL. Ok, usually restaurant's have some steak option on there and this one does for the winter menu. She say's since they are paying for it there should be something they like to eat which yes, I do understand and agree but it just annoys me since my mom is paying for the entire reception (170ish ppl) and hasn't said a word about our food or anything else.
Now comes the issue of having no young kids there. I have an 11 year old brother who will be going. FI has a 2 year old niece. FMIL says she has to go. I say she doesn't. I want it to be adults/older kids and FI says he doesn't really care either way. My MOH with all have a 6 month old who will not be invited. She knows this and respects it too. I also just found out I did not go to my dad's wedding (he married when I was 3) and I am not hurt at all haha.
What do you think about this stuff? Some of them are just little but it's really annoying that my mom is being so supportive and his is not and kind of making it about her family. I am stressed enough about planning (which is fun but hard since we're doing it from 1500 miles away). Also, we are in the process of trying to move and find new jobs and FILs know this.
Did you guys have similar experiences and how did they pan out in the end? Thanks for any input