wedding on a Wednesday?

JenF12 · May 2011

What do you think about a wedding on a Wednesday? My fiancé and I want our wedding on the seventh of August 2013. I am pretty firm on the date.

I understand it would mean some people would not be able to attend as it is not a convenient as a Saturday wedding. It would also mean cheaper prices at some venues and crossing some off our list as weekday weddings are sometimes not available.

Wiscisbliss · May 2011

Yeah, unless you were in my immediate family or the wedding were in the town I live in, I probably wouldn't be able to attend.

To get the discounts have you looked into a Friday or Sunday wedding?

What is special about the date?

kellya01 · May 2011

Any day you pick is up to you, IMO. However, just keep in mind that weddings in the middle of the week may pose a problem for people who can't get the day off or who can't make the trip if they are OOT (could require them to take Tues, Weds, and Thurs off just to make the trip depending on how far they are). If you're okay with having perhaps a smaller turn-out, then go for it! Do send out save-the-dates, if you can, since it's not on a weekend. That may ensure that people can save the date a bit more in advance than the general 6-8 week rule for wedding invitations. Just a thought if you keep the Wednesday date! Personally, we chose a date that worked with most of the important people as far as family, friends, and other important wedding guests, and that ended up being a Saturday in July.

jemmini6 · May 2011

Any date you choose is really up to you, just be prepared for A LOT of people to decline. Also, you need to be prepared to have a very short event...no one is going to party all night on a Wed and be at work the following day.

If you are okay with this, then by all means, go for it.

kristeno90 · May 2011

I am getting married on a Tuesday (2 weeks from tomorrow) We only wanted our immediate families there so having a mid-week wedding was no big deal for us. Also, the Bed & Breakfast that the wedding is going to be at only had their honeymoon suite available during the week for a year out when we went to book it.

theluckiest555 · May 2011

Fi and I really wanted July 15 to be our date because that is our 1 and a half year anniversary. But we decided since we had a lot of OOT guest (about 90% of the guest list), we decided it would be too inconvienient for everyone since they would most likely have to take Thursday off, especially people invited to the RD. We decided then to do the 16th, but when I was touring the reception site we wanted with my mom, a girl booked it for that day. Instead of getting into a big war about it, we chose to do the 17th because I REALLY wanted that reception site. That is a Sunday which is not as convienient as Saturday, however, we thought it would be easier because people could fly in on Sat. (or maybe even Friday) and they might have to take Monday off, but we thought that might be more doable than taking a random Thursday off. But really, it is your day. I understand having a date that means alot to you. Do whatever you think is best, just be prepared to get more "NO's" than you expected (maybe, maybe it won't happen, who knows

)

ETA: And also something to consider is how many of the people you REALLY want there are OOT guests.

vicki0508 · May 2011

I would check with your VIP guests and make sure they would be able to attend a Wednesday wedding.

redheadfsu · May 2011

You can do a Wednesday wedding if you want as long as you are ok with what that means. You will have higher decline rate (if it is an out of town wedding, then even more people will decline). Plus, you will have tons of people leaving early or arriving late. So if you want all your friends/family to party until midnight, then a weekday wedding is not going to work.

cdavislynn · May 2011

"I would check with your VIP guests and make sure they would be able to attend a Wednesday wedding. "

This and be prepared that a significant number of other people won't be able to attend.

thesequel · May 2011

Unless it was immediate family or friends that I was close to, I wouldn't attend. As a teacher, it is actually more work to prepare for a sub teacher than to just teach the class myself.

Like PPs have said - you have the ultimate decision over your wedding date, but definitely be prepared for a high decline rate.

ABeautifulMind · May 2011

Unless you were my immediate family or best friend, I'd probably come to a Wednesday night wedding (provided it was local), but leave fairly early. It is your day and you should do whatever you want, but I wouldn't be thrilled or go out of my way to attend a Wednesay night wedding.

HobokensFury · May 2011

Unless it was someone I was really really close to I would not attend a Wednesday wedding.

sessionswedding · May 2011

Unless I was the MOH or MOB I would probably not attend a Wednesday night wedding. On top of having to work the next day, and on top of possibly having to get off early that Wednesday to be at the wedding on time, that would make me miss my Wednesday night church, and that's really important to me.

On a slightly related note, may I ask why you're already planning a wedding that's over two years away?

ETA: I just realized too that if you want a church wedding or you want a minister to officiate, you can forget it. They're all having church on Wednesday night.

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wiwicaty · May 2011

We're getting married on a Tuesday. The date was honestly one of our top priorities so we had no doubt. It depends on what matters the most to you, guest attendance or your wedding date.

Queen Jane · May 2011

I would go to your Wednesday wedding if I was local. But, I don't have a mon through fri 9-5 job, so there's that.

Hellokatie0517 · May 2011

See the following thread, it discussed Wednesday weddings...

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wedding-date-trouble

Really, what's more important to you? Having all your loved ones there or getting cheaper rates?

Hays2be · May 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wedding-wednesday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:25801459-0767-4e72-b615-91bbad3b9b75Post:2011bb6d-a002-433d-ba9c-ed738812b691">Re: wedding on a Wednesday?</a>:
[QUOTE]ETA: I just realized too that if you want a church wedding or you want a minister to officiate, you can forget it. They're all having church on Wednesday night.
Posted by sessionswedding[/QUOTE]

Many churches (mine is one) suspend Wednesday night stuff through the summer because of low attendance.

We're doing a Thursday night simply because my parents can attend. They are working it into a trip they already had planned. All the other important people will also be able to make it. We limited the number of coworkers (my employer works us 7a-5:30p) because most wouldn't be able to make it. It also has the added benefit of smaller guest list=smaller budget.

For us, it is a win-win. Plus, we a day to relax before leaving on our honeymoon. Most of our guests will be leaving Friday to head off to the second part of their vacations.

DNAtime · May 2011

My FBIL had his wedding on a Thursday to save on their venue costs. I am having my wedding on Sunday to help save some $$. That only works with some vendors, though, our caterer, who is by far the largest $$ amount and percentage we are spending is the same price any day. I think the biggest money saver is a smaller attendance.

If you are really attached to the date do it. However I would check with your VIP guests to make sure.

mgem8 · May 2011

I am having my wedding on the Tuesday of Veteran's Day week. It's a DW, so all the VIP guests were planning to stay most of the week anyway. (And with having an extra day off from work that week, it ended up working out pretty well for most people.)

We have gotten such amazing deals with having it on an "off" day.

crazyinnormal4 · May 2011

I attended a Tuesday night wedding a couple years ago, and it was a lot of fun! There were a significant number of people there, more than I would have expected.

I would, however, recommend checking with your VIPs, as PPs suggested, as well as sending out your save the dates well in advance.

It's doable, and if the date is important to you and your FI, then go for it. Just make sure that you keep in mind that many people might not be able to come.

Good luck!

[Deleted User] · May 2011

Im having my wedding on a Monday in St. Louis were my FI and I are from. Since my whole family is in St. Louis and his immediate family is in St.louis we don't mind not having his extended family there. Also the wedding would be on our anniversary of our first date thats why its on a monday.

[Deleted User] · May 2011

Also because its on a Monday many places don't have set prices and they are willing to work with you on pricing.

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