I don't want to sound mean, but I'm just ready for everything to be over with the wedding planning. We are getting married in August and I'm tired already of my bridesmaids!
My bridesmaids asked me and my fiance where and what dates we could do the party we would like to have our bridal shower (we are having a jack & Jill style party). They gave us 2 dates for the whole summer and one was 2 weeks before the wedding.
My sister-in-law offered her place to have the shower. They have a lot of land and it would be good to be able to be outside in the summer so I guys could do what they wanted (we play a lot of yard games) and the ladies could do what they wanted to. Their place is only 25 miles away, which isn't a big deal, we live in a rural area.
Well, my one bridesmaid is hurting for cash bad! She suggested they have it at a local club where they will charge you $50 to rent the room and you have to buy your drinks (non and alcoholic drinks) from the bar. Her whole "thinking" of having it at the club is so SHE can drink and would be closer to home for her. There is absolutely nothing there that would keep the guys interested besides a pool table and dart board. Plus she would have to pay for drinks which would cost her more in the end, if she would just either drink what she has at home or buy a bottle of wine to take with her.
She also stated that it would be cheaper to have it there so the bridesmaids wouldn't have to buy the liquor to have at the party. (My fiancés side of the family DOESN'T EVEN DRINK!!!) I suggested to have it at my sister-in-laws and only serve Iced Tea and Lemonade and put on the invite what is being served and if someone wanted something else it's BYOB. In the long run it would be cheaper for her to have it else where besides the club and if she wanted to drink I'm sure we could get her home.
What doesn't make any sense to me is, if you didn't want our input for the bridal shower, than WHY did they ask, if they were just planning on having it when and where they wanted to anyways! UGH!!! AND doesn't she SEE that the cost of the club and buying her drinks there, it STILL would be cheaper to have it somewhere for FREE.
-I know it will try out fine wherever it is held, but it is just frustrating to no end. It seems like yet some more stress they are giving me on top of all the wedding planning stress! ugh!