Inviting new co-workers to wedding

staceyandpaul · January 2010

I've been at my current job for only about 6 months and while everyone knows I'm getting married, I've been careful not to discuss wedding planning at work. My dilemma is that I am one of nine senior managers and I feel as if I have to invite either ALL of them (plus their spouses) or NONE of them. I haven't really developed a strong relationship with any of them to justify only inviting one or two of them. Will they feel slighted if I don't invite them or should I just suck it up and invite all 16 people. One other alternative is to invite only the president of the company and his wife.

AmoroAgain · January 2010

You haven't been there long enough I'd say, and can probably get away with just not inviting anyone.

Galaxy8227 · January 2010

If you haven't been there too long and haven't actively been discussing it then I think you're safe not to invite anyone.

danieliza1127 · January 2010

Don't invite any of them. There is no obligation to invite co-workers to your wedding. Your wedding is a personal event, not a networking or work related event. If you haven't been there long enough to have relationships with these people and you don't socialize with them outside of work, you shouldn't invite them.

I had been at my job for a year when I got married and I didn't invite any co-workers or bosses. I never got the feeling that any of them expected to be invited.

vallyhoo · January 2010

I tried to go by the rule of thumb that if you didn't feel comfortable calling X person on the phone and inviting them to dinner, then it wasn't necessary to invite them to the wedding. Sure they will be excited for you and congraulate you upon finding out that you got hitched, but I seriously doubt they'll feel slighted.

[Deleted User] · January 2010

I would not invite any of them.

Brie2010 · January 2010

I'm in a similar situation and I'm just not inviting anyone from work. They are all nice people, but I don't hang out with any of them socially or eat lunch with them, and if I invited all of them it would mean an extra 16 people at our wedding. Our wedding is long-distance, so I'm sure they'll understand.

However, FI has been at his job longer than I have and works in a very small office (him+four other people). We decided to invite all of his co-workers because he hangs out with two of them socially and they're a very-tight knit group. I've also met them all a few times before, whereas my co-workers have no idea who FI is.

In this case, I would say don't invite them.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · January 2010

I'd also go with none. You started planning the wedding before you knew any of these people.

staceyandpaul · January 2010

Thanks, everyone, for all the input. I can put my guilt away and invite more of my friends!

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