Sort of check, but mostly big decisions.

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

My mom and I went yesterday to another farm we were going to look into as a ceremony venue. It was exactly what I was looking for all along. Its beautiful and rustic and even though we won't be able to married completely in a barn, it is the exact setting we want. The owners said they would have to talk about it and would let me know today if it is possible for them to host the wedding, since Sept 22nd is their prime weekend for preparing for the pumkin/apple/school field trip season. She and her husband seemed optimistic because we would be in the back of the farm and out of their way, and only there for a few hours (set up, reherse, then show up and get married). So I am hoping this pulls thru or else we are SOL. I really don't know what we will do if we can't get married there. I asked FI if he would consider a local church and he adamantly said no. Not sure why, but he just won't.

We also were talking about our honeymoon yesterday. We are considering postponing it for a number of reasons. FI doesn't fly so we would have to drive to Iowa. Not a problem. BUT.... my brother is getting married about 6 months later in SC and we will have to drive to that. I'm starting to think that we just can't do both. We would have to rent a car for both cases, and then pay for hotels, food etc. It's just not feasable to do that close together.

Then... we went to an event at a local ATV dealer and saw one I really liked. The price was so reasonable that we met with someone to talk about financing. It really would not be hard to pay for, and FI just got a raise and added hours, but I just have it looming over me that its one more thing to pay for. Fi pointed out that if I don't get it now I never will because There will be other things in life coming up. I have until tomorrow to decide, but I am thinking of passing on that.

Ok I just had to blurt all that out, since it kept me up for hours last nite.

BMcLeodTeam · March 2012

I am sending you TONS of vibes that the farm works out, it sounds like an amazing location for you

As for the honeymoon, a lot of couples postpone their honeymoon! If that's what you need to do to make sure you get that awesome time away with your then husband, then go for it!

As for the ATV, I guess it comes down to how much you want it and whether you're wanting to add that to your budget/can add that to your budget at this time. Only you know your budget. I know FI and I refuse to finance anything like that simply because when you look at the interest charges it seems hardly worth it, so with the exception of a mortgage on a house we both subscribe to the belief that everything is bought cash, and if you can't, then you haven't earned it yet, but that's us. Everyone is different when it comes to their finances

mamameech · March 2012

Ooooh fingers and toes crossed for you for the farm! That would be lovely!
We aren't honeymooning immediately after the wedding either so just do it when it works for you

And oh boys and their toys LOL. FI texted me last week about getting a new motorcycle... don't get me wrong, I love riding on the back but is it really in the budge right now?? It's spring so he's really missing his bike (he sold it last year) and I get that; so I let him dream lol

nicknuttnc · March 2012

I hope it work out for you with the Barn and I will pray for you in this major need for the wedding. I know how you feel about paying for things. It seems like it always a vendor that need to get paid and things that need to be bought. However it is true when you are doing something or buying something then it will always be something that will come up. We will be having a small honeymoon and taking something bigger latter.....

I think you should do what you think is best....

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

Fingers crossed that your barn works out!!!

Have you discussed doing your HM on the way back from your brother's wedding? Since you'd already have the car and it would kinda be on the way back? That gives you 6 months post-wedding to save for a longer trip. Just a thought...don't know if work schedules and such will allow.

As for the ATV, yes things will always come up. Think though if you'll have buyers remorse in a few months or if once you get the payments going you'll relax. I am a cheap person in general about want-to-have not need-to-have things but sometimes when I splurge once I start seeing the payments are manageable I relax about it and stop making myself guilty for enjoying life. How you handle things like that is personal and only you know what you can afford. If you think you'll regret it for a long time though it may not be worth the stress. But, your FI encouraging it is typically a good sign unless he's not practical about money.

morenachica110 · March 2012

Good Knottie vibes your way about the barn! I have a soft spot for barn venues (getting married at one!) so I know how it feels to get so excited about the beauty of one

I think volleygirl has a good idea. Maybe you could do one around your brother's wedding time? Where in SC is he getting married? I live in the upstate (top corner) and the beach is only about two and a half hours or so away. Charleston is gorgeous and would make for a perfect beach spot.

As for the ATV... I have to agree with PPs. Only you and your FI know your budget. It's a tricky situation. How would the payments be? Would you regret it when it gets closer to the wedding because the payments are starting to hurt? One thing FI and I had to think about was not only are we paying for a ton of stuff (and HM is taking a chunk of cash), but we'll both be taking time off from work. He gets one week paid vacation. So he's off for one week and I'm off for two. Just another thing to think about.

Keep us posted!

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

Thank you all so much. I'm sitting by my phone waiting for the farm owners to call me back today. It is beyond our wildest dreams how perfect of a setting it is. We considered making my brother's wedding (which is in Charleston, Morena!) part of our honeymoon and i think we will continue to dwell on that. We also thought about taking the honeymoon for our 1 year anniversary to make it extra special. But I feel like waiting on that has taken a LOAD of stress off! As for the ATV, I spoke with a lot of people about it and they all pointed out something that we didn't really think of; FI and I don't really do anything else. We don't go to bars every week, we don't have kids to deal with yet, and we are still a long ways away from home ownership. We work a LOT, and many of our friends have moved away. Aside from hunting, which is only one part of the year, this is what we like to do. So we may as well do it while we can, and while we can enjoy it. We can always sell it for house money since it holds its value very well.

misscrafty84 · March 2012

The barn sounds amazing! And I agree with postponing, FI and I are thinking we'll wait until spring

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