Hi ladies,
So I'm 30 days out from my wedding (wee!) and we haven't really thought of parent gifts.
FI's family hasn't helped to pay for or plan the wedding (other than FMIL's mother/son dance song). They are not coming to our shower as FSIL threw herself a babyshower the same day 2 hours away and won't move the time.
We are nowing responsible for paying for FFIL's tux and FMIL's hair apt. to get her hair cut and colored for the wedding and maybe the day of the wedding hair (at a different salon than me I really don't want her there on my day) if his sister won't do her hair (depends on how she feels she will be about 7.5 mo preggo at that time. FI's dad has been out of work for a long time so they don't have the means to cover these costs.
Since we're covering all of this and it will set us back even further (we're paying for the wedding including RD and HM ourselves) do we have to get them parent gifts or can these count? I know I sound like a jerk/brat but his family really hasn't cared and they're the only reason we have to have a big wedding in the US in the first place. They also will not come to our RD because FFIL has some health problems and wants to be in good health the day of the wedding. His mom doesn't drive and won't come with FI's brother/BM to the dinner because she will only wear a new dress she can't afford. We tried to tell her she can come in something older no one will care. Literally no one in FI's family will now come to our RD and our parents have never met in 4.5 years of dating.
Can we justify the minimum of $300 we'll end up having to spend just to help get them to the wedding as their gift?
Problem is my dad has given the absolutely max he could (which hasn't covered more than the photog) and my parents are paying for their own meal and my godmother and family friend's meal at the RD. I want to make sure that my parents get some kind of thank you gift. While my mom has been a huge PITA and talked me into a lot of things I really don't need or want, she's gone to every dress shopping apt, dress fitting, flower consultation, invitation consultation etc. to help me make decisions. She also bought us a really nice cake server/champange flute set that she had engraved just because I wouldn't spend the $100 it ended up being and she didn't want me to be without one.
You can't give a gift to one set and not the other when they are together...but are we ok given the circumstances?
Thanks!