So I up and eloped in Dec to my hubby. Hubby is actually guy I was engaged too when I was 20 and was with for around 5 years as a teen/ young adualt. I broke both of our hearts when I decided that I needed to save the world and thought I couldn't do that while married. He got married, had a kid, then a divorce. I had a kid but never got married since I never wanted to marry anyone but him.
Fast forward like 15 years, we found each other again. Realized we were still very in love. Broke a few other hearts by getting back together. We eloped a few months ago but knowing we would also plan a ceremony for april. I loved the day we eloped and wouldn't change it for the world.
The ceremony is very small on a beach in another state near my in laws. We are keeping to family and very close friends.
One reason I am doing a super small wedding is that I am WAY more social then my hubby. Also my friends travel a lot. So even with the small number of my freinds coming the balance will be my friends and family to his closet famly since his close friends are in another state, don't travel, (and I susspect they feel like they went to his wedding over a decade ago). They would all come if we were doing it local but really it will cost over a grand with airfare, cars, and a hotel for any couple coming to the wedding.
Anyhow this is my wedding day and I am doing it super low key. Simple dress (jcrew silk great without a train) wedding and afternoon champange, lite cold food, and a cake reception for 20 on the beach. Post reception drinks at his parents. I think I am not the only one in the second wedding boards facing a wedding were your family/friends will outnumber your grooms. I am looking for advice on how to make sure he feels like it is his day. He has been wonderful so far esp since I am not doing this in an over the top way.
It is also intresting to have a wedding were it is your first but thier second. Add in the fact that his first should have been my first as well and that we already eloped. I can only imagine what miss manners would say about all of this but who cares.
Love thoughts on what you had your kids do as part of the ceremony and ways to balance your first wedding with his second including your family/friends out numbering.
I will say that we are super lucky everyone is very happy for us and only wished we had gotten married when we were young.