September 11th Wedding....

Re: September 11th Wedding....

• megk8oz member

  

  January 2010

  If the date means something happy for you, and nobody that's invited is personally effected by it, I really don't see the big deal. You don't owe anybody an explanation ... maybe from now on, when the wedding comes up, just say "Oh, we're getting married the 2nd Saturday in September", and hope that nobody asks "What date does that fall on?".
  
  Ok, that's kind of a lame suggestion., but I really hate when people get crap about what date they picked.
  
  I agree with Heels, it probably wouldn't seem as big of a deal if this tragedy was given an actual name (Like Pearl Harbor Day) instead of just being left as "September 11th".
  

  
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• redheadfsu member

  

  January 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_september-11th-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ca95b7c6-2d90-45d0-b26d-b824cdbcbdb1Post:bf39c840-9235-4f06-8a6d-04ad5920fe65">Re: September 11th Wedding....</a>:
  [QUOTE]I think it's fine as long as none of your guests were personally affected.  People get married on Pearl Harbor Day and Memorial Day weekend and anniversaries of all kinds of other tragedies.  It's just unfortunate that the Twin Towers/Pentagon tragedy was simply named the date, because now whenever anyone hears Sept. 11, that's their first thought. If you told someone you were getting married on December 7th(?) or May 31st, no one would even bat an eye. 
  Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
  
  This.

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• goheels05

  

  January 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_september-11th-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:ca95b7c6-2d90-45d0-b26d-b824cdbcbdb1Post:ed6c6630-5335-49d9-bebe-0ec2f78602b2">Re: September 11th Wedding....</a>:
  [QUOTE]If the date means something happy for you, and nobody that's invited is personally effected by it, I really don't see the big deal. You don't owe anybody an explanation ... <strong>maybe from now on, when the wedding comes up, just say "Oh, we're getting married the 2nd Saturday in September",</strong> and hope that nobody asks "What date does that fall on?". Ok, that's kind of a lame suggestion., but I really hate when people get crap about what date they picked.
  Posted by megk8oz[/QUOTE]
  
  I don't think that's lame at all, meg.  You usually come up with really good ideas. 

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• Ms.Jacinta Thomas

  

  January 2010

  If you want to get married on 9/11, by all means do so! Unless for some reason, you or someone VERY close to you has a problem with this date, there is NO reason for you to even consider changing it. If by chance you picked this date, and this happened to be the very date you groom's grandmother passed away (EXAMPLE ONLY) and he was concerned about the date because he was very close to grandmother, then yes, you should change the date. But would you change the date because your friends dog fluffy died on 9/11...probably not!

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• Jaemi1123

  

  January 2010

  My best friend was married on September 11, 2004.  If you think you are getting looks now imagine how it was only 3 years afterwards, I can imagine how you feel; I saw that looks.  I think the important thing to remember that this is your and your future husband’s day.  If you were married September 11, 2000 or any other year are you not supposed to celebrate your wedding anniversary? I think that if you want to stop the “tisk tisk” you seem to be getting from people (or at least feel better when you walk away from the conversation) is just say it proud and if they still give you the look; tell them that it should be a day that we need to celebrate; celebrate freedom, life and love.  What better way to do that than two people committing to start a life together and start a family.  Good luck.

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• The_Resa member

  

  January 2010

  My friend just got engaged a month ago and she is also planning a Sept 11 wedding. The great thing about it is that a lot of places won't be booked because people tend to stay away from that date. She got everything she wanted because it wasn't booked for that day. You may be able to get discounts too.

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• surreal.heidi member

  

  January 2010

  We wouldn't do that because my family was directly affected (I lost my sister) and to be honest, if a friend were getting married on that day, there is NO WAY I would attend.  In planning our wedding, Sept would be a perfect time to do it except for this reason and we have basically ruled out the whole month!!  So some people (like me) take it a bit far....  However, that said... as long as no one on the guest list was affected, I think it would be okay.   My main reason for replying is to suggest that when you have the date written on things like invitations, you should go for a non-traditional layout, like:
  
  11 September 2010
  eleventh day of September
  
  rather than September 11, 2010 or 9/11/10 or whatever.  Avoid the Sept.11 and 9/11 combo in print.  The associations are pretty strong.
  
  If you think you'll be uncomfortable with the way people react, maybe you'd be better off choosing another date.  But if you are fine with it, go with it. 
  

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