Hurt, Confused, Anxious

CowgirlBride88 · November 2012

My MOH got herself pregnant and, after a huge blowout over her breaking lease and leaving my FI and I with an apartment we can't afford and may lose right before Christmas, has left our wedding. Her baby daddy was also a Best Man, and he's left too. This leaves my FI with his 2 B-Men, and myself with 1 'Maid, now MOH. I would like to ask a 2nd lady to be a "maid, mostly to help out my now MOH. I don't know what to do; I'm confused and feeling very lonely, as this seems to magnify my lack of real friends. My wedding planner is also MIA, after breaking her arm and unable to do much of anything. I have several acquaintances, but no close friends I feel I can ask. Any support and/or advice is appreciated. No snarky comments please; I feel sad enough as it is.

Viczaesar · November 2012

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[QUOTE]My MOH got herself pregnant and, after a huge blowout over her breaking lease and leaving my FI and I with an apartment we can't afford and may lose right before Christmas, has left our wedding. Her baby daddy was also a Best Man, and he's left too. This leaves my FI with his 2 B-Men, and myself with 1 'Maid, now MOH. I would like to ask a 2nd lady to be a "maid, mostly to help out my now MOH. I don't know what to do; I'm confused and feeling very lonely, as this seems to magnify my lack of real friends. My wedding planner is also MIA, after breaking her arm and unable to do much of anything. I have several acquaintances, but no close friends I feel I can ask. Any support and/or advice is appreciated. No snarky comments please; I feel sad enough as it is.
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]

You should not ask anyone to be a replacement bridesmaid. Your MOH (who you should not have promoted to MOH to replace your friend) does not have any duties in your wedding other than getting the dress, and I doubt she needs help with that. Just leave your party as is. If you cannot plan your own wedding you're doing it wrong and/or need to drastically scale back your plans to something achievable.

Summer2011Bride · November 2012

Ditto PP. Don't "promote" anyone or ask someone to replace your BM. Your MOH should not need additional help unless she needs help putting her dress on and showing up to your wedding, as that is all she has to do. Anything like throwing parties, etc. is extra and totally optional.

Winnertag1 · November 2012

None of your friends need to help out with your wedding, it is your wedding. No one needs to do anything except you, your FI and a wedding planner. Do not ask someone to be a bridesmaid for the sake of getting them to do stuff for you. Do not promote anyone else to Maid of Honour since your MOH left.

beardownbchs · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Y<strong>ou lost me at "got herself pregnant". I just can't "support" anyone who would be so self absorbed as to end two friendships and freak out about how her pretty princess day will be affected over a BABY.</strong>
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>Agreed. And did this baby have something to do with your huge blowout? If not, then that was totally irrelevant to put in your post and makes you sound like an ass. If so, then you need to get over yourself because no one is going to stop their lives for your wedding. Your wedding isn't half as important to anyone else as it is to you and your FI. </div>

HobokensFury · November 2012

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[QUOTE]You lost me at "got herself pregnant". I just can't "support" anyone who would be so self absorbed as to end two friendships and freak out about how her pretty princess day will be affected over a BABY.
Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

Cosigned HB

CowgirlBride88 · November 2012

Really guys? I asked for no snark. Stagemanager14 seems to enjoy harassing me on the boards, so thanks for encouraging a cyber-bully.

Second, the pregnancy gave my EX-MOH an excuse to act like a b**** toward everyone, then broke contractual law by leaving the lease, citing the baby as reason to leave (which is illegal). If StageManager14 and the rest of you had read the WHOLE first sentence, you would have seen that it had nothing to do with the baby, but over her leaving. THEY ruined 2 friendships by screwing us over royally. SHE left the wedding, not me kicking her out!! I was fuckin' happy for her lil one until she got psycho.

Third, I was not using 'maids to do things for me! It was simply me trying to be considerate of somebody who has never been a MOH, and might start feeling overwhelmed later on due to XYZ reasons. I don't know how all this wedding s*** goes! I haven't been married umpteen times or have children who have been married!!!! I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!

lauralaur · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Really guys? I asked for no snark. Stagemanager14 seems to enjoy harassing me on the boards, so thanks for encouraging a cyber-bully. Second, the pregnancy gave my EX-MOH an excuse to act like a b**** toward everyone, then broke contractual law by leaving the lease, citing the baby as reason to leave (which is illegal). If StageManager14 and the rest of you had read the WHOLE first sentence, you would have seen that it had nothing to do with the baby, but over her leaving. THEY ruined 2 friendships by screwing us over royally. SHE left the wedding, not me kicking her out!! I was fuckin' happy for her lil one until she got psycho. Third, I was not using 'maids to do things for me! It was simply me trying to be considerate of somebody who has never been a MOH, and might start feeling overwhelmed later on due to XYZ reasons. I don't know how all this wedding s*** goes! I haven't been married umpteen times or have children who have been married!!!! I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]

First, I'm not sure I've ever heard of or seen a lease that could not be broken. You typically have to pay a penalty and give a lengthy notice, but you can break the lease. Was she named on the lease? If yes, are each of you named as owing 1/3 of the rent each month? Have you tried looking for a new roommate?

Second, I don't appreciate your tone. Wether you intended to or not, you did come across as kind of a jerk in your original post, and I came here for my first wedding too and still managed to get things figured out without hollering at anyone. You honestly sounded like you were pissed that your MOH got pregnant.

MyNameIsNot · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Really guys? I asked for no snark. Stagemanager14 seems to enjoy harassing me on the boards, so thanks for encouraging a cyber-bully. Second, the pregnancy gave my EX-MOH an excuse to act like a b**** toward everyone, then broke contractual law by leaving the lease, citing the baby as reason to leave (which is illegal). If StageManager14 and the rest of you had read the WHOLE first sentence, you would have seen that it had nothing to do with the baby, but over her leaving. THEY ruined 2 friendships by screwing us over royally. SHE left the wedding, not me kicking her out!! I was fuckin' happy for her lil one until she got psycho. Third, I was not using 'maids to do things for me! It was simply me trying to be considerate of somebody who has never been a MOH, and might start feeling overwhelmed later on due to XYZ reasons. I don't know how all this wedding s*** goes! I haven't been married umpteen times or have children who have been married!!!! I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. <strong> GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!</strong>
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]

<div>Gee, it's a shock you have so few friends. Maybe your attitude and things like the bold have something to do with it... If you behave like a selfish brat, people on this board are going to call you out. It's not cyberbullying or whatever you want to call it. It's honesty. </div><div>
</div><div>Don't add anyone to your wedding party. Your MOH has no responsibility in the wedding, so there's no reason she should need help. All she has to do is get her dress and show up, and another BM is not going to help with that.</div><div>
</div><div>If you have a legal issue with a former friend, get some legal advice. If she leased from you and breached the contract, you can sue her for breaking it. Either way, bringing it into this topic is pointless, and just makes you look childish and spiteful. Learning how to deal with conflict without throwing a tantrum will serve you well as you go through life. Look into it.</div><div>
</div><div>With the wedding planner, you are paying her and you have a contract. It sucks that she broke her arm, but if she can't hold up her end of the bargain, it's time for you to start looking for someone else. </div>

beardownbchs · November 2012

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[QUOTE]My MOH got herself pregnant and, after a huge blowout over her breaking lease and leaving my FI and I with an apartment we can't afford and may lose right before Christmas, has left our wedding. Her baby daddy was also a Best Man, and he's left too. This leaves my FI with his 2 B-Men, and myself with 1 'Maid, now MOH. I would like to ask a 2nd lady to be a "maid, mostly to help out my now MOH. I don't know what to do; I'm confused and feeling very lonely, as this seems to magnify <strong>my lack of real friends</strong>. My wedding planner is also MIA, after breaking her arm and unable to do much of anything. I have several acquaintances, but <strong>no close friends I feel I can ask</strong>. Any support and/or advice is appreciated. No snarky comments please; I feel sad enough as it is.
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Gee, I can't imagine why..

</div>

saric83 · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Really guys? I asked for no snark. Stagemanager14 seems to enjoy harassing me on the boards, so thanks for encouraging a cyber-bully. Second, the pregnancy gave my EX-MOH an excuse to act like a b**** toward everyone, then broke contractual law by leaving the lease, citing the baby as reason to leave (which is illegal). If StageManager14 and the rest of you had read the WHOLE first sentence, you would have seen that it had nothing to do with the baby, but over her leaving. THEY ruined 2 friendships by screwing us over royally. SHE left the wedding, not me kicking her out!! I was fuckin' happy for her lil one until <strong>she got psycho</strong>. Third, I was not using 'maids to do things for me! It was simply me trying to be considerate of somebody who has never been a MOH, and might start feeling overwhelmed later on due to XYZ reasons. I don't know how all this wedding s*** goes! I haven't been married umpteen times or have children who have been married!!!! I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]

Hmm....pot calling kettle, my dear. Freaking out on people online isn't going to fix your problems, so maybe save the energy to focus on what you can do to improve your situation.

Like PP's suggested, if it's a legal situation with your lease, get a lawyer, get a roommate and/or talk with your landlord to find out if there are options to end the lease all-together, so you and FI can move into something you can afford without a third person.

But all of that aside, there's nothing your new MOH should need "help" with since her ONLY role is to get a dress, show up at the wedding and sign your marriage certificate.

Leave your wedding party as-is and just focus on what to do with the housing situation.

Simply Fated · November 2012

" I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!" Okay, so now that we know why you don't have any friends, how about you chill? You accuse someone of cyberbullying you and then call us bitches and pull some sexist crap? Seriously? If what your friend is doing is so illegal, take her to court. And then, go make some friends.

rsanna · November 2012

What changed between now and your WW post? That was only 3 days ago? I thought you were going to find another roommmate. Either way, you lost any possible sympathy from me with these posts. As PPs have said, now you know why you don't have friends. You sound just as "crazy" as your former MOH.

HobokensFury · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Really guys? I asked for no snark. Stagemanager14 seems to enjoy harassing me on the boards, so thanks for encouraging a cyber-bully. Second, the pregnancy gave my EX-MOH an excuse to act like a b**** toward everyone, then broke contractual law by leaving the lease, citing the baby as reason to leave (which is illegal). If StageManager14 and the rest of you had read the WHOLE first sentence, you would have seen that it had nothing to do with the baby, but over her leaving. THEY ruined 2 friendships by screwing us over royally. SHE left the wedding, not me kicking her out!! I was fuckin' happy for her lil one until she got psycho. Third, I was not using 'maids to do things for me! It was simply me trying to be considerate of somebody who has never been a MOH, and might start feeling overwhelmed later on due to XYZ reasons. I don't know how all this wedding s*** goes! I haven't been married umpteen times or have children who have been married!!!! I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]

Hi Pot, meet Kettle. You will get no where really quickly with that attitude. If you can't handle the truth don't let the door hit you in the butt. FWIW this can be considered a personal attack on Stage and will get you banned as will calling us bitches.

Viczaesar · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Really guys? I asked for no snark. Stagemanager14 seems to enjoy harassing me on the boards, so thanks for encouraging a cyber-bully. Second, the pregnancy gave my EX-MOH an excuse to act like a b**** toward everyone, then broke contractual law by leaving the lease, citing the baby as reason to leave (which is illegal). If StageManager14 and the rest of you had read the WHOLE first sentence, you would have seen that it had nothing to do with the baby, but over her leaving. THEY ruined 2 friendships by screwing us over royally. SHE left the wedding, not me kicking her out!! I was fuckin' happy for her lil one until she got psycho. Third, I was not using 'maids to do things for me! It was simply me trying to be considerate of somebody who has never been a MOH, and might start feeling overwhelmed later on due to XYZ reasons. I don't know how all this wedding s*** goes! I haven't been married umpteen times or have children who have been married!!!! I'm asking for support and help, and I keep getting snarky bitches on here. GOD I HATE WOMEN!!!!!!!
Posted by CowgirlBride88[/QUOTE]
So in other words you're emotionally unstable. Good to know.

michelles0821 · November 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hurt, Confused, Anxious : ] Aren't you a peach. I would refrain from calling people names.
Posted by 1covejack[/QUOTE]

Hey Darlin... Dont listen or worry about those negative nillies out there. Believe me. There are so many out there unfortunatly. No compassion.
I understand exactly what your saying.
First of all you need a MOH to sign the license...
and a Best man to do that too.
Its not all about helping. I'll be married in 6 months and not one of my BM are really helping at all or even asking if I need help. My MOH lives in NC, so theres only so much she can do.
I figure it this way, if you want something done right, you gotta do it yourself anyway..lol
Follow your heart. If there is someone else you would love to stand up for you, ask em. Keep your focus on you. It is about the Bride, after all

kmmssg · November 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hurt, Confused, Anxious : Hey Darlin... Dont listen or worry about those negative nillies out there. Believe me. There are so many out there unfortunatly. No compassion. I understand exactly what your saying. First of all you need a MOH to sign the license... and a Best man to do that too. Its not all about helping. I'll be married in 6 months and not one of my BM are really helping at all or even asking if I need help. My MOH lives in NC, so theres only so much she can do. I figure it this way, if you want something done right, you gotta do it yourself anyway..lol Follow your heart. If there is someone else you would love to stand up for you, ask em. Keep your focus on you. It is about the Bride, after all
Posted by michelles0821[/QUOTE]

<div>ANYONE can sign the license. Other friends, parents, etc. MOH and BM TRADITIONALLY do it, but anyone who was a witness to the wedding can do it. And, no, it's not about the bride, after all. Your advice and idea of what is required for a wedding and what a wedding is about is complely jacked up here.</div>

kmmssg · November 2012

OP, in your original post, you ended it with " All I can say is, to hell with them both and their little spawn."

You wonder why you have no support.

HobokensFury · November 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hurt, Confused, Anxious : Hey Darlin... Dont listen or worry about those negative nillies out there. Believe me. There are so many out there unfortunatly. No compassion.<strong> I understand exactly what your saying. First of all you need a MOH to sign the license... and a Best man to do that too. Its not all about helping. I'll be married in 6 months and not one of my BM are really helping at all or even asking if I need help. My MOH lives in NC, so theres only so much she can do. I figure it this way, if you want something done right, you gotta do it yourself anyway..lol</strong> Follow your heart. If there is someone else you would love to stand up for you, ask em. Keep your focus on you. It is about the Bride, after all
Posted by michelles0821[/QUOTE]

1) Actually you don't. Anyone over 18 can sign it.
2) BMs are not slaves. They are not required to do anything other than wear the dress and stand in front. Everything else is nice but not required. Wedding planning is the sole responsibility of the bride and groom.

MoxieMickie · November 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hurt, Confused, Anxious : <strong>First, I'm not sure I've ever heard of or seen a lease that could not be broken. You typically have to pay a penalty and give a lengthy notice, but you can break the lease.</strong> Was she named on the lease? If yes, are each of you named as owing 1/3 of the rent each month? Have you tried looking for a new roommate? Second, I don't appreciate your tone. Wether you intended to or not, you did come across as kind of a jerk in your original post, and I came here for my first wedding too and still managed to get things figured out without hollering at anyone. You honestly sounded like you were pissed that your MOH got pregnant.
Posted by lauralaur[/QUOTE]

PPs have handled the wedding and friendship aspect for me. At least 3 of my 4 leases (in 3 different states) did not let me break a lease per se. There was no option to pay a penalty and get out (based on the contracted lease terms and additional discussion with the landlords.) I was responsible for the rent for the entire lease, although the landlord would have had to make an effort to re-lease it. For the one apartment I had to vacate early, the effort was simply telling people who inquired that they could physically come to the office to look at a folder of available sublets. In all cases, though, I was allowed to sublet. For 2 of the leases, applicable laws did not require leases to be breakable, although they did require landlords to try to rent a unit vacated early.

lauralaur · November 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hurt, Confused, Anxious : PPs have handled the wedding and friendship aspect for me. At least 3 of my 4 leases (in 3 different states) did not let me break a lease per se. There was no option to pay a penalty and get out (based on the contracted lease terms and additional discussion with the landlords.) I was responsible for the rent for the entire lease, although the landlord would have had to make an effort to re-lease it. For the one apartment I had to vacate early, the effort was simply telling people who inquired that they could physically come to the office to look at a folder of available sublets. In all cases, though, I was allowed to sublet. For 2 of the leases, applicable laws did not require leases to be breakable, although they did require landlords to try to rent a unit vacated early.
Posted by MoxieMickie[/QUOTE]

Huh. I should mention it was only an issue for me one time and our lease contained a provision for vacating early. We had to pay a penalty of one month's rent and give 60 days notice rather than 30. Another time we just called the rental company and asked if we could leave one month early and they said sure. Oops!

jennylee813 · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Any witness to the wedding can sign the marriage license. It does not have to be an MOH or BM. In fact, it's a quaint custom in my social set for the parents or grandparents of the couple to do this, not their wedding party. <strong>P.S. The cliche is "Negative NELLIES."</strong> I
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Thanks, Retread. That was killing me!

I've read both of these threads and can't believe that someone would call their alleged best friend's unborn child the 'spawn of Satan'. OP, you've got a lot of growing up to do before getting married. Start now.

RamonaFlowers · November 2012

Why the hell do you think you're ready to get married if you and your FI can't even afford to live somewhere without having a roommate to help kick in rent money?

I saw in your WW post that your FI got laid off and all ... but you guys took on this place before that happened knowing that you couldn't afford it by yourselves. Why you guys thought that being in that financial position was a good time in your lives to get married is beyond me.

msuprincess04 · November 2012

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[QUOTE]Why the hell do you think you're ready to get married if you and your FI can't even afford to live somewhere without having a roommate to help kick in rent money?Posted by RamonaFlowers[/QUOTE]

This part, I actually disagree with. In a big city, it can get really expensive, and if you value space, location, and other certain things (like parking), then having a roommate while living with your SO isn't a bad idea. I'm not personally a fan of it, but I have had many friends that rented a house as a married couple and had a roommate.

renegade gaucho · November 2012

She got herself pregnant, huh?

banana468 · November 2012

Sorry I've been OOT and not on TK for a few days. Just hit the ban button.

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