Fun way to choose GM-need ideas!!

jesteiner23 · January 2012

My fiancee only has 3 out of 5 spots open on his side, and WAY too many to choose from. He's been debating since last March when we got engaged. he said he wants to have a drawing-like straws or something. I'm just afraid he's going to regret it and/or be disappointed with who he gets on his side. Anybody have a fun way to do this? Like a competition or...something more normal? haha this is a serious issue, i told him he has until June 1st for our Sept 15th wedding to figure it out. HELP!

freebread03 · January 2012

Your fiance should choose the friends that are closest to him and who he wants standing up with him as he gets married. Do NOT turn it into some type of competition--I don't even know why you'd consider doing something like that--makes no sense.

em01092 · January 2012

Sides do not have to be even. Uneven sides are very common and popular. Let him ask as many as he wishes. Unless numbers are more important to you than people, that is. It would not be weird or strange looking, as your photographer can make it work just fine for pictures, and you can have BMs/GMs walk in and/or out in trios (like 2 GMs escorting 1 BM) or alone.

And even if you insist on even sides, definitely do NOT do a competition. That's messed up. His GMs should be his nearest and dearest, and that should be his choice.

Now what is OK to do by drawing straws is the order of GMs standing next to your FI at the alter, if you want that to be totally random.

jagore08 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]My fiancee only has 3 out of 5 spots open on his side, and WAY too many to choose from. He's been debating since last March when we got engaged. he said he wants to have a drawing-like straws or something. I'm just afraid he's going to regret it and/or be disappointed with who he gets on his side. Anybody have a fun way to do this? Like a competition or...something more normal? haha this is a serious issue, i told him he has until June 1st for our Sept 15th wedding to figure it out. HELP!
Posted by jesteiner23[/QUOTE]
How would you feel if one of your friends says, "Hey, I only have X amount of spots open for BMs. So I've decided to draw straws or have a potato sack race to see who gets the spots."? Would this make you feel special?

graysquirrel · January 2012

Even sides do not matter at all. If your FI has like 7 friends to your 5 it is completely fine. There is no rule that the attendants have to be equal. If he has some huge number and can't possibly decide, it is also ok for him to just pick the 2 he has already asked and leave it at that.

Whatever you do, please don't make this into a competiton. Friends should not have to compete for rank in your wedding or in your hearts. It will make you guys look really bad and cause a lot of hurt feelings. Making it into some kind of friendship pageant will come across as really self-absorbed, and drawing numbers doesn't seem very meaningful. Your Fi should continue soul searching and pick the people that he is closest to or leave things as is.

knmd2012 · January 2012

I was in a similar situation. We tried to stick to 5 on each side (I would have been fine with 3) but my fiance is basically the 27 Dresses character of men. He's been the Best Man 3 times and been a groomsman 13 times, plus an usher probably 5+ times. It's ridiculous. We're having 7 groomsmen (plus like 6 ushers haha) and 5 bridesmaids because he felt way too guilty limiting it to 5 people and thought it would hurt some really close friends' feelings. I'm just glad my fiance is now happier with the wedding party and that he has so many good friends- must be a good sign, right?

Like PP's have said, just let your fiance choose the people closest to him and don't be too strict about numbers. Having your close friends in your wedding party and keeping your fiance happy is way more important than pretty matching pictures. And PLEASE don't have a competition to determine your wedding party members.

mbcdefg · January 2012

Have them each write an essay on why they deserve the honor of filling the last few slots in your wedding party. Then have them read it aloud at a series of meetings where the rest of the bridal party has to attend.

artbyallie · January 2012

Uh, yeah, what's NORMAL is for each of you to pick who you want to stand up with you and ask them. There are no 'slots.'

Viczaesar · January 2012

Ick.

andrea2473 · January 2012

This sounds like a dumb reality show prefice. I would never demean myself to compete to be in my "friends" wedding.

jesteiner23 · January 2012

Thanks for the few good ideas I got and the rudness from the rest of you...jeez. Remember when you were a clueless bride? Thanks for the backhanded support.

Summer2011Bride · January 2012

And then OP ran to SB and complained about all the "rudeness." OP complaining on another board never does you any good, esp. if your post is something as ridiculous as this. Honestly, one of the worst ideas I've heard on TK and I've heard a lot. You NEED to re-think this.

andrea2473 · January 2012

Well OP, regardless of whether or not you knew sides could be even or not, it's a really stupid effing idea. Why on earth would he do that with his friends? I'm sorry. I try not to be too harsh, but this is just one of the dumbest, rudest ideas I've seen on here in awhile. Just have uneven sides or pick between them. It's not that hard.

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