MOH vent!

lvissers · May 2012

So my MOH was emailing me yesterday asking about what meals will be provided over the weekend and what hair/makeup/nails services are covered or would be her responsibility so she can budget accordingly, I totally get that. But then she was asking or pretty much telling me that we are picking up her boyfriend from the airport around 1-2pm on Friday afternoon (the wedding is Saturday, but rehearsal is Friday around 4) Friday is the only day before the wedding I am taking off of work and I know I am getting a mani/pedi done on friday morning with my mom and FSIL. I dont necessarily have plans around 1-2pm that day, but I don't want to commit anything to anyone because who knows what might come up last minute. I told her this and she was like we will make sure you are all packed up earlier in the morning and can we please pick him up and was getting mad. I seriosuly cant believe her and told her he can take a $20 cab from the airport to the hotel where the rehearsal is. The last thing I need to stress about the day before the wedding is running to the airport to pick up my MOH's boyfriend. Anyone else have oblivious bridal party members???

LADY324 · May 2012

Why can't she pick him up herself? I don't blame you the guy can spend $20 bucks on a cab. I would not pick him up you are going to have so many things to do that day and guess what if you have an hour or 2 free keep the time for yourself!! Even if it is to just get a coffee and relax!! I would not say yes stand your ground girl!!

lvissers · May 2012

She is flying in the night before (She lives OOT) and is staying with me Thursday night, so she won't have a car to get him. I really tried to explain it nicely to her that I'm not making any commitments that day before the wedding, not to mention the airport is 40 mins away from where I live and will be a Friday afternoon in the summer in san diego! So will be packed! I will happily pay the $20 for him to not have to deal with that!

bridetobe71412 · May 2012

That's absolutely absurd. Do not budge on this. We're not even picking up fiance's parents from the airport - they can take a $20 cab.

Most of my bridesmaids are just totally oblivious to the fact that the wedding is coming up. Not one of them has asked me how things are going. My MOH just finished her first year of law school so she's been MIA the whole time I've been planning, but she did email me the other day to tell me that she's arranging for someone to pick me up to bring me down to my beach house for the bridal shower. That's nice of her to do.

mbody · May 2012

Yeah, I wouldn't want to go pick him up either. Even if you are packed up and everything else is in order, you might want that time to just relax and chill.

Personally, I'd let her take my car and go get him herself. (I know some people are weird about lending their car/driving other people's car, but I can't literally think of one of my friends who didn't drive my car in college.) So, I'd be fine with that.. don't know how comfortable you'd be with it. But, yeah I definitely would be like here's 25 bucks for his cab ride.

bells24412 · May 2012

Aren't you being a little harsh on your MOH?!

BAHAHAHAHAHA JUST KIDDDING!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know worst sarastic joke ever! lol.

Tell her to have him get a cab seriously, you are going to be busy doing other things and why should you have to worry about him getting to where he is supposed to be? You shouldn't even have to worry about this, he should/figure out his own transportation issues.

butterflyjumper1 · May 2012

That's really bizarre to me. I understand her telling you when her BF was landing just for purposes of planning/knowing what his plans were, but why would the bride be the one to pick him up?!?

Maybe one of your BMs has a boyfriend who would be bored and able to pick him up if he really didn't want to do the cab?? but seriously, cabs and airport shuttles are NOT expensive, and are expected to be a price of traveling.....babysitting him shouldn't be your job.

ceglare4 · May 2012

No way in hell would I be going to pick him up. She is crazy for asking you to do that.

lvissers · May 2012

yea, sadly I never really hear from my bridesmaids either, other than my MOH that is so concerned about herself and keeps asking what it is going to cost for everything. The only thing she needed tob uy was her dress, we are providing everything else. I can't believe she asked if there would be open bar on the ngiht of the wedding and open bar at the rehearsal dinner? Of course yes it will be, but thought it was a wierd question. Her long term boyfriend that she lives with makes probably $300k a year, so I dont know why she is acting like it's a big deal. My other bridesmaids have never once called, emailed or text me over the last 10 months asking if I need help or how I'm doing for WR or even NWR stuff. I might have well just had our pets as my bridal party. Ok, that sounds mean, but I mean it more for what they could do to offer help or offer emotional support.

michelle11988 · May 2012

Yeah I would say here's $20 and tell him to get a cab. Even if you plan on being ready, what if something happens the day before? What happens if you get stuck in so much traffic you don't make it to the rehersal at 4? I would tell her no way and she can deal with it.

NIKKIANDTYE · May 2012

Don't back down!!!! He's a grown man and he should be able to find his own way to the hotel and pay for a cab if need to. You need that free time for yourself if just to sit on the steps and count the cracks on the sidewalk!! LOL

Carla1019 · May 2012

DO NOT go to the airport the day before your wedding. Maybe it is just me but the airport is one of the most stressful places. You don't know if you have to pick him up at baggage claim or if he will figure out how to come out the right doors to your car.

Then, what if the plane is delayed are you supposed to sit and wait? Aww heck naw!

Put that grown man in a cab and call it a day.

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