Uncomfortable w/ registering for lots of expensive things

karilynn036 · January 2012

Now that it's registry time, my fiance wants to go a little bigger than I'm comfortable with. I've made peace with myself over the $800 pots and pans and the $450 knive set (we'll use those forever), but I'm finding it hard to be ok with registering for that AND china AND silver flatware AND everyday dining stuff like he wants to. In his family it's normal to register for stuff like that. Mine, not so much. I just worry that my family will see the registry and think "Who does she think she is?" We've got a good range on there so far (items ranging from $10 and up) so we've got items for every price point. He says we should put what we want on there, and if we don't get it, it's not a big deal, and people who don't register for china always regret it. How can I make us both comfortable with the registry?

Blueyed228 · January 2012

Lots of people bought us the large items as a group gift. I think as long as you have a good range of price points then you should be fine.

FWIW, we didnt register for china and we dont regret it.

HobokensFury · January 2012

DO the pots and pans come sepetately? If they do register for individual pieces and you're more than likely to get them.

aragx6 · January 2012

The knot ate your post ...

karilynn036 · January 2012

Thanks! I was wondering what happened. I'll give it another try.

So, my fiance wants to register for some pretty expensive things. I've made peace with the $700 pots and pans and the $400 knife set (lifetime warranties and we'll use them forever), but I have a hard time having that AND china AND silver AND everyday diningware on there along with everything else. It's common in his family to register for all that, in mine, not so much. I am just worried my family will look at the registry and say "Who does she think she is?" We have stuff ranging from $10 all the way up on the registry, so its a good mix of price points. He says we should register for all of this stuff, and if we don't get it, no big deal, and we may regret not registering for all the fine dining stuff. Any ideas on how we can both feel comfortable?

wong036 · January 2012

I did a lot of research before I added stuff to my registry or let my fiance look at stuff. By doing this I could find things that were more reasonably priced. When I'd look at something that I questioned due to price I'd ask myself will we really use this or is it just something that will collect dust. If it was something usable, price didn't really matter. I registered for fine china and everyday place settings that were more reasonably priced. The thing that I made sure to do was register for everyday stuff that was similar enough to my fine china, this way all of the extra things that go in a china set (service platters, bowls, pitchers, etc) could be used with either the fine china or everyday stuff.

mialorraine · January 2012

I completely get where you are coming from. I think as long as you have a variety of things ranging on cost, you should be ok. Is there some way to break the more expensive things up? Like people can contribute a certain amount for one thing? My fiance and I have a range of options too, and people will buy you a gift they can afford. I think it's ok to have a few expensive things, you ARE getting married! If you are worried, try swapping out some expensive items for those that are a little more reasonable. Just make sure the registry is always full of different options.

karilynn036 · January 2012

Thanks to both of you!

Hilraythebride · February 2012

I think as long as you put a range of prices on there you will be fine, if people don't get you the stuff then maybe you can get a discount on it afterward. I had a hard time registering for a lot of items but with 200 people coming to our wedding I know we will get a lot of gifts and some cash.

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