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FI lost his job yesterday :(

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Well, my FI was laid of yesterday! His fathers funeral was just on Friday and days later, he has lost his job...I feel awful for him! Hopefully he can find something soon! I don't want to come across as snarky or whatever, but he hasn't even got the groomsmen together and even went and looked at his tuxes, gotten my wedding ring, pretty much nothing..He has been coasting along while my Mom has been paying for everything except mine and my daughters dress...I am so ugh right now..feeling bad for him and in panic mode as our wedding is like 50 something days away! :(
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Re: FI lost his job yesterday :(

  • hvcfringehvcfringe
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    UGH! What a terrible situation! I guess my best advice to keep just tugging along and letting your fiance know that you are there for him if he needs to talk about anything. Thoughts and prayers are your way!
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  • i2012doi2012do member
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    senidn t+P your way. I know this is a difficult time
    was his dad sick?? maybe that is why he has been dragging his feet on the groomsmen tux thing- his heart isnt in it

    i know that i have a bunch of vendor appts this week that i just cancelled because my nana is in terminal condition and will likely pass away soon

    focusing on anything other than work and that right now is enough for me.

    I hope he finds something soon!!! And I will keep him in my thoughts!
    Goodluck to him! Time to dust off that resume
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  • orangemell2012orangemell2012
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    I hope he finds a job quickly! I know it is incredibly frustrating, I was laid off in January and thankfully found a new job within 3 weeks.
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  • mtbentleymtbentley
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    I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope he finds something else soon.
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  • iriscarmendiaziriscarmendiaz
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    It sounds like you both need some major support right now.

    As his future wife, it's your job to help support him in his current state (not saying you're not doing that already!). However, the burden of the wedding is already on you and your mom. (I really don't mean this to come off mean or preachy, so I apologize in advance if it does)

    Perhaps, there are a couple of people who can help you with wedding stuff (in addition to your mom). Even making phone calls and getting status reports can be helpful if you still rather "do things yourself". Maybe you can ask which parts of your fiance's wedding duties he'd like help with and take care of that too.

    I know it sounds like a lot, but you still have a little bit of time left (50 days is almost two months). And as long as your are both supported, everything should turn out okay. Maybe with your extra support, job searching might be a little easier for him. And maybe by seeing him enthused about something, it might make it a little easier for you.

    Good luck to you both, and you both are in my thoughts.
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  • transcriber87transcriber87
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    Thanks everyone for your encouraging words, it is much appreciated! My Mom called today and said if need be, the wedding will go on as planned if she has to pay for his tux..and he also called today and already has a job interview tomorrow morning so hopefully...he is a go getter, he was actually out of work a couple of years ago for a few weeks, I was making better money then and he was going and selling his plasma for gas $ and then got a job at a temp agency that led to a full time position..I know times are hard all around but its just that so much has happened in the past 2 weeks..yes, his father was not expected to make it through January and he did, up till 2 weeks ago Saturday when Andy got word that he had passed and his funeral was just this past Friday..when it rains it pours I guess! But thanks again ladies!
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  • FlintstonePearlFlintstonePearl member
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    Rooting for you and your FI! Stick together and you will get through it.
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  • random4180random4180 member
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    oh wow, that is a lot to have on anyone's plate. so sorry you both are going through this. have you considered doing suits (if the guys already own them?) my FI was unemployed from Sept to April so believe me, I know what it's like to try and plan a wedding with a significant other out of work. it could be guilt...with us, we both had issues with talking money and expenses and all of that. do you already have a ring picked out or was he going to surprise you? either way, you could look at different options together- whenever we'd be tense about the planning, the seemingly little things like getting my engagement ring fitted (finally) or listening to our first dance song would just make us both feel better and remind us that, hey, we're really getting married! A little positive excitement is never a bad thing at a time like this :)
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