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Angel@1985 · April 2010

Ok

SaraAndrew2010 · April 2010

I don't see why you are getting all worked up about this. They are getting married months apart from you. Just because you got engaged doesn't mean that no other friends or relatives are allowed to get married in the meantime. You and FI should be happy for his brother.

FYI, using the phrase "steal my thunder" is sure to get you mocked around here.

ExpatPumpkin · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_were-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:1b920bcf-5d01-4f1a-99a9-5818315370cdPost:02ef33b0-5f54-4827-8035-f14e2c69db32">WE WERE FIRST</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, so FI and I have been together since January 08. We got engaged Dec 31 2010, I set a date for February 19, 2011. My FI's younger brother proposed to his gf on valentine's day this year. They started dating a few months after we did. Anyways, now they've set their wedding date for Aug 21 this year, so their wedding will be first. This really didn't bother me at first, since I know our wedding will be unique and memorable, but now I do feel like some of my bride to be thunder is being stolen (esp with FIs side of the family). <strong>Also they want FI to dance in a hog trough</strong> since he wont be married at the time of their wedding. When he mentioned that we had been engaged first even if he was getting married first the family responded with a so what. I'm just starting to think they are being rude about this. A year long engagement is pretty standard and I wanted to have time to plan my wedding, and our best man is currently in iraq until dec. Sorry if some of this is confusing. This is my first post on here. I'm just wanting some others' thoughts and opinions on the situation. ?????
Posted by Angel@1985[/QUOTE]

What does that mean?

nda_roxybabe · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_were-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:1b920bcf-5d01-4f1a-99a9-5818315370cdPost:02ef33b0-5f54-4827-8035-f14e2c69db32">WE WERE FIRST</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, so FI and I have been together since January 08. We got engaged Dec 31 2010, I set a date for February 19, 2011. My FI's younger brother proposed to his gf on valentine's day this year. They started dating a few months after we did. Anyways, now they've set their wedding date for Aug 21 this year, so their wedding will be first. This really didn't bother me at first, since I know our wedding will be unique and memorable, but now I do feel like some of my bride to be thunder is being stolen (esp with FIs side of the family). Also they want FI to dance in a hog trough since he wont be married at the time of their wedding. When he mentioned that we had been engaged first even if he was getting married first the family responded with a so what. I'm just starting to think they are being rude about this. A year long engagement is pretty standard and I wanted to have time to plan my wedding, and our best man is currently in iraq until dec. Sorry if some of this is confusing. This is my first post on here. I'm just wanting some others' thoughts and opinions on the situation. ?????
Posted by Angel@1985[/QUOTE]
Ae you serious? Its not a compitition. They chose to get married sooner rather then later, good for them. Seriously, because you guys have been together longer are you going to be mad if they have a baby before you too?
You can still have a great wedding, no thunder is getting stolen, no one is being rude you're just being ridiculous.

btw, what the hell does "dance in the pig trough" mean?

megk8oz · April 2010

I'm not understanding the hog trough thing, but for everything else, please refer to the quote in my siggy.

jajph1974 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_were-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1b920bcf-5d01-4f1a-99a9-5818315370cdPost:02ef33b0-5f54-4827-8035-f14e2c69db32">WE WERE FIRST</a>:
[QUOTE]Ok, so FI and I have been together since January 08. We got engaged Dec 31 2010, I set a date for February 19, 2011. My FI's younger brother proposed to his gf on valentine's day this year. They started dating a few months after we did. Anyways, now they've set their wedding date for Aug 21 this year, so their wedding will be first. This really didn't bother me at first, since I know our wedding will be unique and memorable, but now I do feel like some of my bride to be thunder is being stolen (esp with FIs side of the family). Also they want FI to dance in a hog trough since he wont be married at the time of their wedding. When he mentioned that we had been engaged first even if he was getting married first the family responded with a so what. I'm just starting to think they are being rude about this. A year long engagement is pretty standard and I wanted to have time to plan my wedding, and our best man is currently in iraq until dec. Sorry if some of this is confusing. This is my first post on here. I'm just wanting some others' thoughts and opinions on the situation. ?????
Posted by Angel@1985[/QUOTE]

I don't see what you're getting all worked up about. It's not like everyone else you know has to put their lives on hold for your wedding. It's not a contest. Suck it up.

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

You are being ridiculous. They are not required to wait for you to get married before they do just because you got engaged first.

And honestly, I don't know anyone over the age of 12 that would be concerned with her "thunder being stolen." You will get all the attention you deserve.

nda_roxybabe · April 2010

Why did you delete your response?

nda_roxybabe · April 2010

Ok, do you not see how stupid and pointless it was to delete the post? It was already quoted several times.

pandasquishy · April 2010

I really want to know what this pig trough dance is. Is that an Arkansas thing? Is a pig trough stable enough to hold a grown man's weight?

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_were-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1b920bcf-5d01-4f1a-99a9-5818315370cdPost:6715ba8f-ee08-4458-a412-61b7594bbe76">Re: WE WERE FIRST</a>:
[QUOTE]Why did you delete your response?
Posted by nda_roxybabe[/QUOTE]

<div>Did she respond and explain the hog thing? I'm still dying to know.</div><div>
</div><div>Thanks for deleting OP. Now you look like even more of a child. </div>

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

Huh. That might actually be enough to convince me to move our wedding up to June.

lalap69 · April 2010

I've heard that some cultures have traditions where if a younger sibiling gets married before the older one they have to be humiliated at the younger one's wedding. That's what this sounds like at least.

OP is being ridiculous about her thunder being stolen. OP's FI's family is being ridiculous for wanting him to dance in the trough. He should just put his foot down and tell them no. My younger sister got married before me, and I was happy for her, but if I'd been expected to endure humiliation at her wedding because of it, I would have pitched a fit too.

MyNameIsNot · April 2010

Someone popped in and posted an explanation, and then deleted it.

Basically, it is a humiliation thing like that for the older sibling. The older sib has to dance in the pig trough until it breaks. Disgusting.

nda_roxybabe · April 2010

Yes! She responded, then deleted it! I knew I should've quoted it.

She just said some nonsense about how the pig trough dance is where if the younger brother gets married before the older brother the older brother has to dance in a pig trough.
And that no one seems interested in her wedding planning since its further away.
She never mentioned us being rude or responded to anything else really.

luckyme502 · April 2010

If your FBIL is getting married in August and your wedding isn't until the next Feb, you will have about 6 months of "bride thunder" . Get over it. Our engagement is only going to be six months long. No one has to be engaged for a year!

MISSCOURTNEY20 · April 2010

@ Psichick, she was engaged in December of last year and is geting married in Feb of NEXT year!!! Come on gilrie!!! We still have a couple more days until the weekend!! LOL!!!

megk8oz · April 2010

Haha, Stage, I was waiting to read your response to this. I liken you as the Resident AK expert, lol.

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