Bridal shower, need your input!

ceglare4 · February 2012

The way that scheduling is working out, I might be having my bridal shower the same day as one of my BM's baby shower. I think that mine would be first and her's would be later. If you were a guest that was invited to both, how would you feel about this? I want to avoid this as much as possible but scheduling this has been awful so far, and this weekend is the best for me at the moment.

butterflyjumper1 · February 2012

how many guests will be invited to both of the showers? how far away will the two showers be from each other? how long will each shower last?

personally, as a guest, i would prefer to not go to two on the same day (especially if it was a lot of driving), but if this only affects a few people, i don't think it would be a huge issue...if your guest list would be mostly the same, however, i would probably shoot for a different day.

LADY324 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]how many guests will be invited to both of the showers? how far away will the two showers be from each other? how long will each shower last? personally, as a guest, i would prefer to not go to two on the same day (especially if it was a lot of driving), but if this only affects a few people, i don't think it would be a huge issue...if your guest list would be mostly the same, however, i would probably shoot for a different day.
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

I agree with this. I would really try and not do it on the same day. Do you guys share a lot of friends? If you do it on the same day you might not get the turn out you would want if you do share a lot of friends. Did your BM set her shower date first? If so then did you ask her if she would be ok with you having yours on the same day?

I think everyone deserves to have their own shower day as well. Sorry I just think this is a very bad idea.

ceglare4 · February 2012

It would be about a third or so of my guests. The showers will be in the same city with maybe two hours or so difference. Here are the scheduling dilemmas though:

We're both looking at May 12th, Mother's Day weekend. Two of my BM's are from out of town and I would like them both to be there if possible.

Following weekend is one my BM's high school graduation.

Then we have Memorial Day.

If we do it the 5th, I know for sure that one of my BM's won't be able to come, and probably not the other either, as she would be coming home the following weekend for Mother's Day and my other BM's baby shower. I doubt she'd come home in back to back weekends from North Carolina.

What would you do?

LADY324 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]It would be about a third or so of my guests. The showers will be in the same city with maybe two hours or so difference. Here are the scheduling dilemmas though: We're both looking at May 12th, Mother's Day weekend. Two of my BM's are from out of town and I would like them both to be there if possible. Following weekend is one my BM's high school graduation. Then we have Memorial Day. If we do it the 5th, I know for sure that one of my BM's won't be able to come, and probably not the other either, as she would be coming home the following weekend for Mother's Day and my other BM's baby shower. I doubt she'd come home in back to back weekends from North Carolina. What would you do?
Posted by ceglare4[/QUOTE]

Personally I would rather have my own shower day. A 2 hour drive is very far between showers. You will not be able to accommodate every BM schedule of yours. I would rather have 1 or 2 BM's not be able to attend rather then inconveniencing 1/3 of my guests. And if you do it Memorial Day Weekend be prepared for a lot of no's. A lot of people have plans for the long weekends.

butterflyjumper1 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]<strong>It would be about a third or so of my guests. The showers will be in the same city with maybe two hours or so difference</strong>. Here are the scheduling dilemmas though: We're both looking at May 12th, Mother's Day weekend. Two of my BM's are from out of town and I would like them both to be there if possible. Following weekend is one my BM's high school graduation. Then we have Memorial Day. If we do it the 5th, I know for sure that one of my BM's won't be able to come, and probably not the other either, as she would be coming home the following weekend for Mother's Day and my other BM's baby shower. I doubt she'd come home in back to back weekends from North Carolina. What would you do?
Posted by ceglare4[/QUOTE]

how many is one third of the guests?

and two hours is a pretty long drive to me! is that each way? i definitely wouldn't want to do that much driving in one day to attend both showers. what about looking into june? i just think you might end up being disappointed by the turnout from your friends if they don't want to go to two showers on the same day.

littlemoments324 · February 2012

Do you have the same group of friends/family?? Did she already book her shower??

I mean it wouldn't be that big of a deal if there weren't a lot of people going from shower to the other...but as a guest I wouldn't want to go to two showers in one day...that is a lot...and also for the both of you having to make sure you make it...

I would go for a different day...

ceglare4 · February 2012

I don't want to do it on Memorial Day weekend, trust me.

And it's not two hours of driving between the showers, they are in the same city. It'd be about an hour or two BETWEEN shower times.

I'm inviting 45 guests, and about a third of them are mutual guests.

I'm trying to avoid June because I don't want to deal with graduation and parites and all that.

LADY324 · February 2012

I think your best bet is May 5th or the 19th. How about a Sunday shower?

ceglare4 · February 2012

We can't do the 19th because my cousin (and BM) graduates that day. The 5th is an option but I know for sure that the BM with the baby and her family won't come because her sister graduates that day. And I doubt the one from NC would come the 5th too.

BmoreBride311 · February 2012

May 20th? It's a Sunday, but I think lots of showers are on Sundays.

ceglare4 · February 2012

I suppose the 20th is a possibility too, I just worry about Sundays since people have church and whatnot.

AllyG303 · February 2012

I wouldn't hold it on the same day. We're doing my shower on a Friday night. Is that an option? As a guest, I just wouldn't want to spend one of my precious days off going to 2 showers.

littlemoments324 · February 2012

You can't please everyone...and I will not be in town for the two weddings that I am in for August even though they want me there and I want to be there, but it isn't going to happen. Have fun without me!! Don't revolve your schedule around the OOT guests....I know you really want me there, but...I completely understand...

Sunday showers aren't bad at all

I actually prefer them because then I have my whole Saturday to do whatever!

ceglare4 · February 2012

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[QUOTE]I wouldn't hold it on the same day. We're doing my shower on a Friday night. Is that an option? As a guest, I just wouldn't want to spend one of my precious days off going to 2 showers.
Posted by AllyG303[/QUOTE]

That's how I feel too, but my mom isn't so convinced. I feel like every Saturday or Sunday in May is not working for some reason or another.

Madisonpenny · February 2012

I wouldn't want to go to 2 showers on the same day, and considering your sharing about 1/3 of the guest list with your friend who's having the baby shower, depending on how many people are invited that could be quite a few guests. Try to find a different day. Is it possible to do your shower in late April?
Like littlemoments said, you can't please everyone

BeachLover2885 · February 2012

I think two showers in one day is a lot, as PP suggested.

Would your schedule allow you to have your shower sometime in April? My mom and I had to rule out May completely because we had weddings, Memorial Day, my brother's college graduation, etc.

ceglare4 · February 2012

I don't think the last weekend of April would be bad but my mom is worried that it's too far out from the wedding date. I told her I didn't think there was an etiquette on that but she thinks it's too big of a gap.

LADY324 · February 2012

They typical rule of thumb is the shower is 2-3 months out. May did not work for me either so my mom is throwing mine on saturday April 14th. You can't please everyone is right. If you want a May shower then you are going to have to be ok with 1 or 2 BM's missing your shower.

littlemoments324 · February 2012

My shower is April 28th! would have been a little sooner but my grandma won't be back from TX until mid April!

BmoreBride311 · February 2012

Mine is April 14th, too. I would have preferred sometime in May, but April was when I could travel to the U.S. given work commitments, so that's what we chose. May is tough, with Mother's Day and so many graduations. I would try to open your mom's eyes to April, if you think there is a day in there that would work out.

BeachLover2885 · February 2012

My mom and sister planned my shower for April 29th. Our wedding date is July 7th. I don't think it's too far out! One of my cousins is going to a shower on April 1st for a late July wedding.

Maybe talk to your mom about the end of April to see if she'll change her mind? GL!!

ceglare4 · February 2012

I'm going to try for the last weekend in April, because May is proving to be very difficult!

AllyG303 · February 2012

My shower is April 27

bridetobe71412 · February 2012

My shower is in June, but that's because I have the awesomest MOH ever and she nailed everyone down in January. Only one of my eight BMs can't make it (she is in a wedding that weekend), but otherwise it worked for everyone else. It's the weekend before my bachelorette, so I figured eveyrone would want to do another weekend further removed, but they all agreed on the date! Have you considered having it much closer to the wedding? Or are you concerned people will get sick of you (that was honestly my concern!)?

ajmom2two · February 2012

I would not want to go to 2 the same day. I have been to quite a few showers on Sunday actually in the late afternoon and it seems to work well. If you cant do a Sunday I would look into April or even late June. I have been to a couple showers that were just 2 weeks before the wedding a few times.

michelle11988 · February 2012

I wouldn't want to have to go to two separate showers in one day. I feel like it would be a scheduling nightmare and what if one runs late? What about the same weekend as your friend's baby shower just a different day, such as Friday evening or Sunday?

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