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How Do I Pick my MOH?

FutureMrsODorisioFutureMrsODorisio
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I have 6 bridesmaids, which I have already asked to be in my wedding.  Two of them are two of my best friends from high school, my FI's sister, two nieces, and a new friend who I am currently living with.  At first I was considering asking my new friend because me and her are so much alike I thought it would be so much fun, however my FI is not very fond of her ( as in doesn't even want her in the party, but I already asked her and REFUSE to unask her). I feel like asking her to be the MOH may be like a slap in the face to my FI, and lately she hasn't been very into even talking about anything wedding.  She told me today "no offense but isn't this like a year away?" Like hello this only happens once for some people. Where as my two friends from home couldn't be more excited for me. However I am torn between choosing between the two of them.  I don't want to hurt one of their feelings, but if I truely am closer with one than the other does it matter? Is it stupid to ask two just to save someone's feelings?  I'm the most analytical and indecisive person I know so I feel like I need to just make the decision and move forward! Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Re: How Do I Pick my MOH?

  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    Some people are interested in wedding planning, others are not. Save the wedding talk for the friends that are interested in that sort of thing.

    Your friend is right. With your wedding a whole year away, there isn't a lot for the attendants to do. In fact their only duties are to buy the chosen dress and show up for the ceremony on time and sober. The MOH has additional duties of holding your flowers and perhaps signing your marriage certificate. Anything else is extra.

    Pick your closest friend to be your MOH. You can have two, if you like. And no, it's not stupid to want to spare your friend's feelings. It's thoughtful.

    Congratulations on your engagement and happy planning : )
                       
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
    Moderator Knottie Warrior 5000 Comments 500 Love Its
    edited December 2011
    edielaura-is tomorrow the big day for you?
    Best wishes for a beautiful wedding.
                       
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  • eoreaeorea member
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    edited December 2011
    Just pick who you are closer to. Honestly, I think it's nice you are thinking of your FI but unless the girl did something terrible to him I don't think he should have a say in who your MOH is. Maybe it's just me. I'm sure if my BFF's husband had a say in who MOH was I wouldn't have been it. She picked me anyway because I am her best friend. It isn't like we hated each other we just aren't fond of each other. 

    Also, nothing against my FI's Best man. He is just fine but I am not his biggest fan either but that is who my FI wants so I am happy with it. 

    Like others have said, it is a year away. She will probably be more excited the closer it gets. Pick whoever you want :-) 
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  • FutureMrsODorisioFutureMrsODorisio
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    edited December 2011
    Hahaha! Thanks for the support you guys are amazing!
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