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RCIA Question

Ambybambi1125Ambybambi1125 member
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Hey Ladies-

I am a lurker and finally have a question I feel I could really use some advice about.  I am beginning RCIA hopefully in the Fall here and am trying to figure out the whole sponsor role aspect. 

I originally wanted my sponsor to be my fiancé, but it is our understanding that most parishes don't allow that; has anyone had any experience with this? (After much conversation we have agreed wouldn't be ideal anyway).

Well, today I had the courage out of nowhere to ask a newer Catholic friend of mine if she would be willing to sponsor me (I quickly attributed this to the Holy Spirit’s directions) and she said yes, however, this Fall it turns out she will be living over two hours away for school, so just when I thought everything was coming together I have another small hurdle to jump.  My second question is does a sponsor have to attend all the RCIA sessions with you or does that differ between parishes as well?  Any input would be greatly appreciated.

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  • stardreamer1223stardreamer1223
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    I think it might depend on your parish. I know with ours (Husband and I just completed our RCIA and received confirmation in January) they didn't mind if your Sponsor attended or not. The reason they'd like for you to attend together is because you are able to discuss any questions/concerns with your sponsor there in class while the information is fresh in your mind.  My H and I had a family friend be the sponsor for both of us. He actually taught the classes for the high school age, and therefore didn't attend class with us. We'd meet with him and discuss any questions we had outside of class. Good luck!
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  • egm900egm900 member
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    My parish encouraged me to choose FI as my sponsor.  They said they wanted the sponsor to be someone close to you that you felt you could discuss anything with, and a FI should fit that role better than anyone, and it would help us understand each other's faith and how that is a part of our marriage.  

    We have a lot of parishes involved, and both the church we're getting married at, the priest marrying us, and the priest who was preparing us were all relieved FI was my sponsor for the same reason as the parish I did RCIA with, and they're all in different geographical areas, so I don't think having someone other than FI is necessarily a majority rule.  It will likely come up in your prep that there was a reason you decided it was best to not have FI as your sponsor, so be prepared.

    In my group, FI was the only sponsor that attended the classes.  It was known everyone was welcome, but he was the only one who opted to go.
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
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    My H (then FI) was also my sponsor, but I have heard that some parishes in our town don't allow that, so it varies.

    I don't think your sponsor HAS to attend.  My H was actually in Saudi Arabia when I started classes, so I often deferred to his sister or Skyped with him when I had questions.

    Hope that helps, and praying for you!
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