So I asked my best friend to be my maid of honor a few months ago. Since I have started planning she has not been around to help at all, has missed all of the bridesmaids dress fitting, all of my dress trying on, and the bridesmaids dinner I took the girls out to. I am looking to my bridal party for ideas as my FI is in the military and lives far away. Every time I ask her if she wants to help or come, she never has time. I am not asking her to be at my beck and call but I would like her to participate in the wedding party activities.
I really want to not have her as my maid of honor. She works a lot and I work a lot so our schedules don't mesh. She can never help out and I have a friend who is constantly helping me pick and choose things for the wedding. We once talked about time and she said it would be okay if I didn't want her as MOH because she doesn't have time to help but I still feel crappy telling her I don't want her as my MOH.
Any advice? Do I keep her for sake of losing a friend, or really tell her how I feel?