10 year vow renewal rules?

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  right1thistime member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_10-year-vow-renewal-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:212cf736-4dfc-4d95-8d7e-d974a390fd65Post:ec30323a-42fa-490d-965f-b941f3b5ff87">Re: 10 year vow renewal rules?</a>:
  [QUOTE]Most people have no attendants, or have their children if they do.  You can ask your dad to escort you to <strong><font color="#ff0000">your fiance</font></strong>. Then have a big party. You wouldn't do a garter or bouquet toss, but you CAN do a cake cutting for an anniversary party.
  Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
  
  That would be her husband. 
  
  And I don't love the idea of having your father escort you.  It seems out of place at a celebration of being married 10 years. 
  
  ETA: "<u>mud</u>derflies"?  Subtle.

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  mudderflies

  

  January 2013

  thanks, I wasnt' sure if it would be ok to walk down the aisle with my dad or not. We dont have any children so it just us. I won't have any attendants. I just am not sure what I should or shouldn't do I'm so confused.

  

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  handfast4me member

  

  January 2013

  I have a question for you.  I'm going to be nice and assume that this is not MUD.  So, that being said, why do you want to do this vow renewal?  Do you think that this will be a fresh start for you and your husband, and that it will change your life/marriage somehow?  Why do you feel you missed out the first time?  What you did is basically what my DH and I planned, we got married with no guests, no attendants, on a beach, and went to dinner afterwards.  Very romantic, very intimate.  Why is it you need a do-over?  I can totally understand it if you and your DH had been through some major illness or issues, maybe a separation, towards divorce, and got the relationship out of the ditch, but to just have a vow renewal because you want the PPD is, in my opinion, a waste of money.  Spend it on a nice vacation, and spend quality, alone time with your husband instead. 

  Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.

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  handfast4me member

  

  January 2013

  That is a better idea, Retread.  I just wonder what the thinking is behind some of these vow renewals.   I'm five years from the day I married DH, and I do occasionally see a beautiful flower arrangement, or a color scheme and think "wow, I wish I could have used that for a big reception."  But then I think about the romantic day we had, and am thankful for that.  It's just a thought. 

  Don't mess with the old dogs; age and treachery will always overcome youth and skill! BS and brilliance only come with age and experience.

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  mudderflies

  

  January 2013

  handfast4me- we have always said from day one after we got married that we were going to have a vow renewal at 10 years. Our courthouse cermony wasn't romance in anyway. We had NO money do do what we wanted at the time. Yes and lot of people say while we didn't you wait and save the money and have the wedding you wnated. We didn't because I needed insurance and it was cheaper through his job. I was just asking a question and if all your going to do and bash me then don't answer...
  
  Thank you for everyone that gave me advice.

  

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  katty-tonic member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_second-weddings_10-year-vow-renewal-questions?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:35Discussion:212cf736-4dfc-4d95-8d7e-d974a390fd65Post:9b994e10-8b27-46b0-b914-f9f4ed226a29">Re: 10 year vow renewal rules?</a>:
  [QUOTE]handfast4me - we have always said from day one after we got married that we were going to have a vow renewal at 10 years. Our courthouse cermony wasn't romance in anyway. We had NO money do do what we wanted at the time. Yes and lot of people say while we didn't you wait and save the money and have the wedding you wnated. We didn't because I needed insurance and it was cheaper through his job. I was just asking a question and if all your going to do and bash me then don't answer... Thank you for everyone that gave me advice. :)
  Posted by mudderflies[/QUOTE]
  I am going to have a ten year vow renewal. I have seen a lot of vow renewal ceremonies on TV. Some were doing it because they did not have a big wedding and some even did it up like a first wedding. But ours will be highly modified.  I wish there was a board for vow renewals because there just are so many ways you can do it.

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  mudderflies

  

  January 2013

  Katty yeah I wish they also had a vow renewal board as well. I just don't want it to come off as tacky.
  Retreat bride sorry your right I shouldn't have said that.

  

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  katty-tonic member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  The hardest part is finding a venue because most cater to weddings. So I was looking at golf courses that do a lot of showers on Sunday afternoons. Because we won't have dancing I thought I'd look into getting a discount on group golfing. With a lot of people in second marriages or marrying older I think the 10 year anniversary/vow renewal is an untapped market. If I wait for my 25th, well..no telling who will be around by then.

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  achoyce member

  

  January 2013

  You know, my close friend and their husband did a full blown wedding on their 10 year anniversary because they also had a court house wedding. I don't think there is a rule that says you can't do it again. It will never replace your first weddong no matter where it was. my husdand and I will be married 10yrs next year and we are having a vow renewal ceremony onboard a Carnival cruise. I feel like I'm planning a wedding minus a few things like a engagement party, bridal shower or obtaining a marriage license. So you do what feels good and fun for both you and your husband.
  

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  mudderflies

  

  January 2013

  thanks for all the advice!! I am from NC and now live in MD. I have been thowing around the idea of having a small quite renewal on the outerbanks of NC and since we never had any pictures or honeymoon. I am thinking of getting pictures done with me in a beach wedding dress and then going on the honeymoon we never had. It will be a lot cheaper and I think it will mean more to us. Since we are doing this for us anyway.

  

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  crumbcake82 member

  

  January 2013

  I went to a friend's wedding in Surf City, NC, and it was lovely, just chilly in April.  They rented outseveral  large beach houses and had a whole week to hang out with family and friends, and the ceremony and rehearsal were done through a community center so that part wasn't too pricey.  

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  happyfor25 member

  

  February 2013 edited February 2013

  I know I'm really late but thought I would add in case mudderflies checks in.
  
  My H and I are celebrating our 25th anniversary with a vow renewal/reception (in just 6 days!!!!)  We booked a wedding package at hotel.  We'll be having cocktail hour followed by a short vow renewal ceremony (guests will be seated at their places for dinner), then dinner and dancing.  We hired a DJ and he will actually preside over the vow renewal (I hope this goes well, I really wasn't sure how to handle this aspect; we wrote the "script" for the ceremony) We will not walk down an aisle, just walk together to an area on the dance floor with 2 columns with flower arrangements on them. 
  
  My H and I will have a spotlight dance and then a dance with our children. 
  
  I am wearing a very simple white gown with no train.  I considered a silver gown but opted for the white as this is one thing I always wished I had when we got married (and my H and daughter were pretty insistent).
  
  We got a good deal on the wedding package by attending a bridal show at the hotel last year.  We had pretty much already decided on this venue so when they told us we would get 25% off by booking that night, I was thrilled.  Of course, the discount was higher because our party is in early March so it's not yet wedding season. 
  
  If you have any questions or need to run ideas by someone who has planned a vow renewal, please feel free to PM me.  Best of luck!

  

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