Choosing my Wedding Party

Re: Choosing my Wedding Party

• erinlin25 member

  

  February 2013

  If you consider her your nearest and dearest, ask her! But before you do anything just remember the only thing your bridesmaid has to do is show up on your wedding day wearing the chosen dress and preferably be sober!  Attending/hosting bridal showers and or bachelorette parties is optional and not a requirement.  Best advise would be to not even pick your bridal party until the 9 month mark or so--you never know, relationships can change in a year!

  
  
  
  

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• Peledreamsofrain member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_choosing-my-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:8fd0710b-1549-46aa-bcc4-534b253734a6Post:3cd0e0d9-eaf0-4382-8692-2e4578487253">Re: Choosing my Wedding Party</a>:
  [QUOTE]She doesn't have to help you with the wedding.  All any bridesmaid has to do is get their dress and show up for the wedding.  Anything else they do is what they offer to do. I'd be more concerned about her safety with this creep.  The first warning signs of a potential abuser are jealousy and controlling.  Please ask her to be in the wedding party, and stay close with her. She may need you soon.  Urge her to get some counseling, too.  This is a guy she doesn't need in her life.
  Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]
  
  x2!  I was getting the creepers vibe while reading about this guy too.

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• Lisa50 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_choosing-my-wedding-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:8fd0710b-1549-46aa-bcc4-534b253734a6Post:6f4ce260-d3ec-42f8-ae3e-7662de021874">Choosing my Wedding Party</a>:
  [QUOTE]Hello all! Completely new to the site since I just got engaged about a month ago, but I figured I would ask all the ladies on the site for some advice if maybe you have been in this kind of situation or have some friendly advice! I have a really good friend who used to have a crush on my fiance (before we dated like 6 years ago high school little crush) it doesn't bother me and never has since she has a bf and has for quite some time but it really bothers the current bf who is friends with my fiance. <strong>He wont let her over when my fiance is there and her bf isn't. </strong>He is overall just controlling. I love her to death but we only can hang out when her boyfriend is at work or has other plans and when we do hang out she sits on her phone with him the whole time. I<strong>t has caused us many fights where we have stopped talking for months on end, yet we always end up being friends again..</strong>. My question is should I have her in my wedding party? Right now I have 4 in my party, I would love to have her in it since we talk literally everyday, but am worried about her current bf. He will not be a groomsman. Im worried about her reaction if she isn't however, yet i'm worried about her not helping me out, or at the bachlorette party sitting on her phone or worse yet not coming at all! Please help!
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  Whew!  I'm confused, but with 4 in your wedding party already, you can put a hold on asking anyone else.

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• CVan86 member

  

  February 2013

  Definitely ask her! If you want her there, then you shouldn't let her creep of a bf deter you from asking. Who knows if they will even still be together at the time of your wedding.
  
  And I agree with the other posters. This guy sounds dangerous. Support your friend, and if you think she would be receptive to it, urge her to seek help.

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